(Dallas, TX, USA)
My 3-month-old will only let me, her mother hold her. She screams when anybody else hold her including the father, is this normal? It is frustrating and I worry that she is not bonding properly with her dad. Also, it makes me so exhausted.
I don’t know what to do. Anyone else experiencing this?
Baby Help Line:
What To Do When Baby Only Wants Mom
Your situation is exhausting for sure and also common and completely normal! Most babies have periods when only mom will do. For the young baby to only want mom is part of their bonding process. The baby first bonds and learns to feel completely secure with one person and only then will the process continue full speed with someone else. The most common steps will be to first bond with mom and then with dad (and then with siblings, relatives, friends et cetera.)
If your baby really will not accept being held by dad at all, make sure that dad is close to you and your baby as much as possible. If he interacts, talks, smiles and so on with your baby, she will will start feeling secure with him too.
And dad can help out with stroller walks, diaper changes, house work and other things as well, to help you feel less overwhelmed.
Being 3 months old, your baby will very soon become more active and easier to play with. Dad can go down on the floor or bed and play together. (Here are some tips on games to play with a 3 month old.)
Finally, take a look at the tips here for some other parents with a baby screaming in dad’s arms.
I hope this helps,
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