I have a question about when a toddler not talking rolling eyes and has tantrums…
My nephew, who is a 21 months toddler is still not talking at all. He also recently has started to roll his eyes and has terrible temper tantrums.
I am really concerned about him as even the nursery commented on his eye rolling. I have mentioned it to my sister, but she says there is nothing the matter and he is fine.
Do you think there is reason for me to be concerned?
Toddler is Not Talking, Rolling Eyes and Have Tantrums -Normal?
I understand that you are concerned and before commenting on the specific situation I want to say two things.
First of all, doctors often say that the one person that really knows if something is wrong with a baby or a young toddler is MOM.
Because she is usually the one who spends the most time with the baby and knows him or her the best. So if your sister says that her son is fine, chances are he really is.
Secondly, I’m not a doctor. And even if I was, trying to give medical advice online would be a really bad idea, I think.
Still, I want to share a few thoughts on the situation.
Not Talking at 21-Month-Old
Regarding the boy not talking, that doesn’t have to mean anything. Does he understand words at all? At around 18 months of age, at least in some countries, there is a health checkup at which the parents are asked if the toddler can say 10 words. If the baby can’t, then no big deal.
But if the baby says nothing, understands nothing and takes no part in the spoken family interaction at all, it could indicate a hearing or even a developmental problem. So such cases are usually followed up.
Here is a Q&A with another 21-month-old baby that doesn’t talk. It includes milestones to look for and warning signs that the verbal development needs to be followed up.
Toddler Tantrums – Normal or Not?
Regarding the tantrums – what does he do?
If he yells, cries, kicks, tries to bite etc when not getting his way, it is completely normal. At the age of 1.5 to 2 years, however, many babies are still quite easily distracted and thereby calmed. But that varies.
Here are some tips on how to deal with toddler tantrums without losing your own temper.
Eye-rolling in Toddlers
The one thing that that seems the most relevant to check-up is that the toddler is rolling eyes. Again, even though some babies do this because they can or because they are tired, I think it is advisable to talk to a doctor to rule out any illness.
If your sister decides that she wants to talk to a doctor, then filming the boy while rolling his eyes is probably a good way to get relevant help from a pediatrician.
I hope this helps,
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