She will smile while mom and dad hold her and I talk to her, but if I make eye contact my granddaughter puckers up and cries. It breaks my heart.
I babysat last night and she just cried and cried. I think she hates me. I don’t wear heavy perfume, I brush my teeth to be sure my breath is fresh, and I talk softly to her.
Why is she crying when she is with me? What am I doing wrong?
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Baby Crying When Seeing Grandma
Your granddaughter does not hate you! Infants are very attached to their parents for a while and they are the only people they want to be with. Often, not even dad will do! When my son was younger he would not go to anyone without crying. He would only go to my husband for a few minutes and then he would want to come right back to me.
It may take a little while but your granddaughter will form a great bound with you that will last a life time if you just let the process take its time. Don’t give up on her and don’t think that there is anything wrong with any of you. You don’t mention how old your granddaughter is, but during their first whole year, most babies go through stages of being afraid of a lot of things including everyone else but their mom or dad. It is a natural development and actually good in the sense that it shows that your granddaughter’s mind is developing.
Be patient and approach her gently. Ask her parents to show pictures of you often and maybe record yourself talking or singing a little song that they play often too. Then do not try to take her to your lap or anything like that right now – just continue being around her as much as possible while she is happy and try to approach her just a little bit all smiling to slowly start building your bond.
Her reactions are not meant to harm you, so please do not take personally!
Best wishes to you and your family,
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