Having a miscarriage is so tough.
Getting pregnant after miscarriage can be a difficult journey, filled with mixed feelings and worrying.
For those couples that have been through more than one miscarriage, it can be quite a nightmare – trying to stay calm, mourning the lost pregnancy, getting in the mood for trying again and at the same time worrying a lot about having another miscarriage and another. Some visitors who have experienced this share their stories here.
Still, this situation is fairly common, especially when it occurs in the first trimester. The good news is that most couples that have a miscarriage will go on to have a full-term pregnancy when they try to get pregnant again.
A common question is when it is OK to try to get pregnant again after miscarriage? A common answer is 1 month. Or three months. Or even six months.
Well, a new study from spring 2016 confirms what another research study indicated already back in 2010 – there is no evidence that waiting will increase the chances of a successful pregnancy! Yet, the old recommendations continue to be repeated, sometimes to the sorrow, stress, and frustration of the couple trying for a baby. If you had a miscarriage and would like to start trying to conceive again, read what research says about when to start trying. If your OB/Gyn says something else, then you can at least ask why.
If you want to learn more about what science says about preventing miscarriage, how to affect the quality of the egg and the sperm and how to get pregnant naturally, check out the excellent book It Starts with the Egg: How the Science of Egg Quality Can Help You Get Pregnant Naturally, Prevent Miscarriage, and Improve Your Odds in IVF. (Link to Amazon, opens in new window).
How Long to Wait Before Trying To Get Pregnant After Miscarriage
New Study on Miscarriages
More traditional views on miscarriages stated that a couple should wait a full six months before trying to get pregnant a second time. What a torture for a couple longing to become parents! However, recent studies have been conducted that contradict that statement. Research has actually found that women who are capable of getting pregnant within six-month time frame following a miscarriage have a lower risk of having another miscarriage. In fact, the women who were able to get pregnant experienced fewer complications than those who waiting longer than six months to try again.
In the newest study, the conclusion is:
In the present study we demonstrate that couples who begin trying to achieve pregnancy within 3 months have just as fast, if not faster, time to pregnancy leading to a live birth, with no risk of pregnancy complications, as those who wait until after 3 months to start trying.
Additionally, we found that women with long inter-trying intervals, greater than 12 months compared with 0–3 or greater than 3–6 months, had significantly lower fecundability after taking into account many confounding factors including a history of subfertility. Taken together, our findings suggest that the traditional recommendation to wait at least 3 months after a pregnancy loss before attempting to conceive may be unwarranted.
You can read the full research article here: Trying to Conceive After an Early Pregnancy Loss: An Assessment on How Long Couples Should Wait.
These conclusions are very similar to what was concluded already in 2010:
“Our research shows that it is unnecessary for women to delay conception after a miscarriage. As such the current WHO guidelines may need to be reconsidered. In accordance with our results, women wanting to become pregnant soon after a miscarriage should not be discouraged.
There may be cases where a delay is desirable, for example, if there are signs of infection, and women should be advised appropriately. Also, in a molar pregnancy, current guidelines advise delaying the next pregnancy for at least one year after treatment.”
The older study was published on August 5 2010 in the medical journal BMJ and you can read the study here.
When can we try again?
So, when can you try again?
Well, old recommendations obviously do not take these newer studies into consideration. In any case, most doctors are likely to recommend that you wait at least a couple of months after a miscarriage before attempting to get pregnant again. You need to stop bleeding, get your hormones back to normal and ensure you are emotionally ready before you attempt to have another baby.
As the above studies show, however, it is probably not obvious that all women need to wait even for a couple of months. For very early miscarriages, for example, the bleeding usually stops after some 10 days or so, and ovulation isn’t delayed much at all.
Talk to your OB-gyn, but make sure the person is updated on the new research.
Getting a second miscarriage?
Many couples may have been told that they are at an increased risk of miscarriage if they have already had one loss. However, this is generally not true. Over 85% of women how have one miscarriage go on to have a successful pregnancy the second time around. Those that have experienced two to three losses have a 75% chance of having a healthy baby the next time they are able to get pregnant.
When to consult a specialist?
There may be special cases where you should contact a specialist before getting pregnant after miscarriages. One example would be if you have had more than two losses in the past. Age can also determine the need for help. If you are over 35 years old, you should seek assistance from a fertility specialist. Also, if you have a chronic disease that could put you at high risk or have had other fertility problems, it would best that you spoke with someone before trying to get pregnant again.
YOUR stories about miscarriage and pregnancy
If you are struggling – or was struggling – with miscarriages and trying to conceive, you are certainly not alone! It can be a very tough situation! How are you coping? Are you? Have you succeeded in getting pregnant after a miscarriage? Or not? Please share your situation with other parents around the world.
Below are links to some parents’ testimonies. If you want to share your situation, please do so by leaving a comment below the post.
I’m So Very Confused – Pregnant Or Not?
My husband and I have miscarried twice since beginning to try to conceive. The first one was horrible and the second one too. Felt like I was being kicked …
Hoping To Be Pregnant Again
I am 25 years old and I just lost my baby at 5weeks Feb.26,2011 and I end up having sex with my husband on the 2nd and 3rd of Mar.2011 (I think he stopped …
I have had two miscarriages
Hi. I have had 2 recent miscarriages 1 on aug 29th 2010 and 1 on dec 4th 2010 both before 12 weeks the doctor told me it was genetic the chromosomes. I …
I had a miscarriage about 2 months ago, I was devestated. And to make matters worse, we had to spend 8 hours in the emergency room before they finally …
I Had A Miscarriage Last Year And Im Currently 12 Weeks Pregnant!!
I had a miscarriage last year September 26, 2009. My husband and I tried to get pregnant again right away, but it took about 8 mnths of trying to be succesfully …
Miscarriage After Pregnancy
I am so upset. I was so excited to be pregnant after trying for a year. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I joined this birth club and I was due June …
Lost Myself Also
I had my first child at 16 years old, an unplanned pregnancy of course. Although I enjoyed being a mother I knew that I did not want any more children. …
It has been a roller coaster time for my wife and I. We have been trying for two years to get pregnant but to no avail. Each month the depressing realization …