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Mom’s Question:

What can I do; my 10-month-old baby wants to be carried all the time and I just can’t do it. If I put him down he cries and never stops until I pick him up and walk around with him.

I have a 3-year-old and it isn’t fair to her. Help, what can I do?


Baby Helpline:

Crying 10-Month-Old Baby – What To Do

I believe your 10-month-old has a little bit of separation anxiety going on, which is completely normal at this age.

What you can try is to make sure he has plenty of toys to keep him busy for a little while. Put him on the floor or in his high chair and then you sit closely and play with him with the toys, but do not hold him. Make sure you are close to him though, so he can feel secure despite not being in your arms. Engage with your 3-year-old at the same time! Maybe you can find a way for them to interact here too. For some games to play with your 10-month-old, click here.

You can also put your baby in his high chair or even the kitchen sink while you are cooking, for example, as long as you make sure that he is completely safe. Many babies love bathing, so if you let him splash around a bit in the kitchen sink, and maybe let your three-year-old stand on a chair to play with him, you are likely to be able to distract him for a while too. (Again, safety is very important, so don’t leave them alone even for a minute.)

While in the high-chair, give him something to pick up and eat, for example, green peas. They are healthy, fun for practicing the pincer grasp on, and quite tasty according to many babies.

Finally, since this really is a development phase, it will pass. And it will pass faster if you don’t fight it. He is whining because he feels insecure, and he needs to be with you to build up his sense of security again. Try to let him be close to you as much as you can without losing your mind. A baby carrier, baby backpack, or a baby sling is of great help during this period too!

Hope this helps,

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Feb 28, 2018baby carrier
by: Anonymous

Try a Baby Bjorn or other baby carrier. They allow the baby to stay close while your hands are free to play with your older child, do many chores etc. Drawbacks: it is a bit hard to sit in a chair with the baby attached and if you plan to cook, it is dangerous to have the baby attached to you. Otherwise, they are great.

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