What to do when an 8-month-old baby refuses crib sleeping? This can be a tricky age to get kids to accept the crib. Here’s why and how to handle the situation.
My 8-month-old won’t sleep in his crib. He will not sleep without me. The only time he sleeps without being held is in the car. I try not letting him nap in the evening. He gets breastmilk through a bottle.
He eats his last bottle at 9 and falls asleep immediately on me. I try to wait 20 minutes or so and go lay him in his crib. He immediately wakes up before he is even laid down. I have tried letting him cry it out. Even up to an hour. Ever since he started standing, he stands up at the crib bars and screams at the top of his lungs. I go lay him down and he pops right back up before I even get a chance to rub his back.
I am desperate. What can I do????
Helping 8-Month-Old Baby Learn To Sleep In His Crib
Why an 8-month-old won’t sleep in his crib
8 months old is a tricky age to try to teach a baby to sleep alone. At this age, the baby is learning that he is a separate person from mom – scary! So the baby often suffers from some degree of separation anxiety; he really doesn’t know that you are still around when he can’t see you or feel you. So putting a baby down alone in a crib awake is usually not working at this age, and really makes the baby even more scared.
That said, of course, you can’t sit around with a baby in your arms all night.
Some tips to try to help baby sleep in their own bed
Give the bottle lying down
If you can, you can start a new routine to give him his last bottle lying on your bed, snuggling up with you, but not in your arms. You can still hug him and make it a really cozy moment.
When he falls asleep, just leave him there. (But make sure he is safe and can’t roll off the bed in his sleep.)
Leave your baby (safely) in the bed and only try to move him into his crib when he is in deep sleep. You can check if he is in deep sleep by lifting his leg. If he is completely relaxed, he is likely to be in deep sleep.
Move the Crib Right Next to Your Bed
Ideally, you make sure that he falls asleep as close as possible to his crib – or even in the crib, if you have a kind where you can take off one side of the crib and tie the crib and your bed together.
Is there any way you can fit his crib directly next to your bed?
In such a case, once he is used to falling to sleep next to you instead of in your arms, you can try to put him in his crib with you lying next to it so you are still almost touching.
Even if you can’t have the crib next to your bed, a good transition from your arms will still be to first teach him to fall asleep next to you.
There are other tricks to help a baby feel safer in the crib as well. You can read about several tricks here.
I hope this helps,
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Paula Dennholt founded Easy Baby Life in 2006 and has been a passionate parenting and pregnancy writer since then. Her parenting approach and writing are based on studies in cognitive-behavioral models and therapy for children and her experience as a mother and stepmother. Life as a parent has convinced her of how crucial it is to put relationships before rules. She strongly believes in positive parenting and a science-based approach.
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