My 8 month old will not sleep without me. The only time he sleeps without being held is in the car. I try not letting him nap in the evening. He gets breastmilk through a bottle. He eats his last bottle at 9 and falls asleep immediately on me. I try to wait 20 minutes or so and go lay him in his crib. He immediately wakes up before he is even laid down. I have tried letting him cry it out. Even up to an hour. Ever since he started standing, he stands up at the crib bars and screams at the top of his lungs. I go lay him down and he pops right back up before I even get a chance to rub his back.
I am desperate. What can I do????
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Helping 8-Month-Old Baby Learn To Sleep In His Crib
8 months old is a tricky age to try to teach a baby to sleep alone. At this age, the baby is learning that he is a separate person from mom – scary! So the baby often suffers from some degree of separation anxiety; he really doesn’t know that you are still around when he can’t see you or feel you. So putting a baby down alone in a crib awake is usually not working at this age, and really makes the baby even more scared.
That said, of course you can’t sit around with a baby in your arms all night.
Is there anyway you can fit his crib directly next to your bed? If you can, you can start a new routine to give him his last bottle lying on your bed, snuggling up with you, but not in your arms. You can still hug him and make it a really cosy moment.
When he falls asleep, just leave him there. (But make sure he is safe and can’t roll off the bed in his sleep.) Ideally you make sure that he falls asleep as close as possible to his crib – or even in the crib, if you have a kind where you can take off one side of the crib and tie the crib and your bed together.
In any case, leave your boy in the bed and only try to move him into his crib when he is in deep sleep. You can check if he is in deep sleep by lifting his leg. If he is completely relaxed, he is likely to be in deep sleep.
(Even if you can’t have the crib next to your bed, a good transition from your arms will still be to first teach him to fall asleep next to you.)
There are other tricks to help a baby feel more safe in the crib as well. You can read about several tricks here.
I hope this helps,
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