by Samantha H
My daughter turned 1 about a week ago. We took her off formula because she barely wants to drink it anyways, but she’s lactose intolerant so she can only drink a certain type of cow’s milk… Problem is she REFUSES to drink any sort of milk and I’m not too sure what I can do.
Is this okay because I was told it’s very important from age 1-2 that milk be a big part of their diet?Baby Help Line:
What to Do Toddler Refuses Formula And Cow’s Milk
I understand your concern since most of us have been taught that cow’s milk is very important for our kids to grow healthy, strong bones. Cow’s milk contains a lot of calcium, which is good for the bones and the milk is often also fortified with Vitamin D, which is actually very important for both our bone heath and overall health.
However, the benefits of cow’s milk are disputed. Research published in 2011 (see below for references) concluded that cow’s milk should not be given at all to children under the age of 1 year and only in modest amount to toddlers. The researchers had found that cow’s milk may lead to iron deficiency, dehydration and even obesity; the latter due to its high protein content.
Yet other studies conclude that cow’s milk has no adverse effects after 12 months old, and should be considered an important part of a toddler’s diet. Not easy to know what to think or do as a parent!
One way is to go behind the recommendations and see what is actually in the milk that is so important. And what we find is mainly calcium, vitamin D and calories. And all this can we get to our children in other ways too!
For calcium, you can look for calcium fortified orange juice or give her some steamed broccoli. Since your girl is now one year old, you can also give her collard greens, which are high in calcium.
Vitamin D – maybe even more important than calcium, can easily be added to her diet through a vitamin supplement or even better, time spent outside. (Read more about how avoid vitamin D deficiency here.
As for the calories, a great way to make sure a toddler gets the energy she needs is to add some butter or oil to her foods. Fat is very important for a your baby’s development, including the brain. Read about why and how to add fat to baby food here.
Finally, it is entirely possible to get some milk into your daughter either with her approval or without her knowing. 🙂 Can your girl tolerate any lactose at all, through for example cheese (which has almost no lactose at all, but certainly calcium)? Or could she be interested in eating lactose free yogurt? Maybe you could tempt her by making a smoothie and season the milk with some strawberries and a tiny bit of cocoa powder? Use your imagination! This is actually a great way to make a young toddler continue with formula too. Read about ideas for formula (or milk) shakes in this thread.
So you see, if you experiment a bit, I’m sure you can find ways to help your daughter get her calcium, vitamin D and calories even if she refuses regular milk.
Ziegler EE., Consumption of cow’s milk as a cause of iron deficiency in infants and toddlers, Nutr Rev. 2011 Nov;69 Suppl 1:S37-42. doi: 10.1111/j.1753-4887.2011.00431.x.
Agostoni C, Turck D., Is cow’s milk harmful to a child’s health?, J Pediatr Gastroenterol Nutr. 2011 Dec;53(6):594-600.
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