My son is 4 years old, when he gets hurt or angry he starts to cry but nothing comes out, his eyes roll in the back of his head and he starts to have seizures, then passes out.

I have talked to doctors but never had tests done. The seizures started when he was 2 years old after his father was murdered. It’s been about 6 times in 2 years.

What can I do for my son because I don’t want to be away from him if it continues to happen? Thank you

Kari Winder

Baby Helpline:

Breath-Holding Spells In Children

I am so sorry to hear about the traumatic event in your family. Surely it affects both of you a lot and I hope you have help around you to help you heal.

From what you describe, it sounds as if your son has something called breath-holding spells. They are actually more common than one would think and affect around 1-5% of all toddlers.

A breath-holding spell is not a seizure; it is a transient period in which young children stop breathing after crying, generally because of anger or pain. Breath-holding spells often start at around the age of 2 and disappear at around 5 or 6 years old. And most important, despite being very frightening for the people seeing the event, they are not dangerous for the child.

Breath-holding spells are caused as a response of the child’s nervous system to unpleasant events, such as becoming upset or angry. It is also possible that breath-holding spells are caused by iron deficiency or certain genetic conditions.

There are a few things you can do about the situation. First of all, talk again to a pediatrician, to make sure what is happening really is breath-holding spells. Sometimes they can be confused with other illnesses, such as epilepsy. They are different, though, and a doctor can tell them apart.

Try to document all symptoms before, during, and after the event to discuss with the doctor. Your doctor will perform some tests such as blood tests (to check iron deficiency), EKG (to check the heart), and EEG (to check for seizures) to rule out other health problems.

Epilepsy is a lot less common than breath-holding spells and seizures do not typically occur when a child is upset.

A characteristic sequence of stimulus (such as getting hurt), a cry, pause, facial color change, limp unresponsiveness, and then jerking marks it as a breath-holding spell, not epilepsy.

The best way to distinguish epilepsy from breath-holding is to search for a trigger: epilepsy rarely has one and breath-holding almost always does – like in your son’s case.

When all that is done, make sure you know enough about this situation to be able to teach other people that may be around when it happens. I understand that you don’t want to be away from your son when it happens. But that isn’t always possible, for example, if you have to go to work. If you can tell his babysitter, teacher et cetera, what is going on and how to deal with it, then you don’t have to be so worried.

For example, one might try to calm him down before he gets too frustrated. At 4 years old, you can try distracting him, it may still work. Also, make him feel as safe and secure as possible, without limiting his urge to explore the world.

Breath-holding spells do not need treatment unless they are produced by other medical conditions. When the spells occur, he should simply be put on his side in a safe place. No shaking, no water in his face, nothing in his mouth, as some people believe. You can put a cold towel on the forehead of your son to help shorten the episode. Just keep him safe and keep calm. Also don’t make much fuss about it afterward.

Remember that if it really is a breath-holding spell, it is an involuntary reflex that isn’t dangerous and that he will grow out of. However, you should contact your doctor if breath-holding spells occur more often than usual or if your son stops breathing for more than a minute or has trouble breathing.

I hope this helps,

(Answer approved by our Medical Reference Team)

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Nov 05, 2018 Heart conditions. SCA in children
by: Anonymous


I do not see on the page what your husband died from, but if it was from a heart condition I would have every test done to make sure he does not have a heart problem.

Many children are miss diagnosed with seizures when they really have a heart problem.

I lost my son at seventeen to sudden cardiac arrest and I listened to my doctor that he was okay instead of doing more testing and he had an enlarged heart. Electrical problems such as Long QT syndrome can cause seizures and it is miss diagnosed many times as being a seizure. So have your child checked further. If he is fine then you will have peace of mind knowing that you did everything to make sure he is okay.

People including doctors don’t think of children having something wrong with their hearts.

Nov 16, 2018 No heart condition

by: Anonymous

She mentioned her husband was murdered, so it was nothing with a heart condition

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