Easy Guide To Your Baby’s Sleep Pattern Month By Month
You know the phrase “to sleep like a baby”, indicating to sleep deeply and peacefully.
A complete lie!
Any parent will tell you that sleeping like a baby is hard work! And taking care of someone who “sleeps like a baby”, is even worse. Welcome to parenthood! 🙂
Let’s take a look at young babies’ true sleep pattern:
- They spend 50% of their sleep in active Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep, which is relatively light and often filled with dreams. Adults spend some 20% of their sleep in REM sleep.
- Their sleep cycles are very short compared to adults.
- With short sleep cycles and lots of light sleep, babies tend to wake up often.
- When they wake up, they have generally no clue how to go back to sleep on their own.
- Add to this, tiny tummies and an enormous growth rate and it is easy to understand why some babies tend to wake up very often around the clock.
All this means lots of disrupted sleep both for the baby and for you. For the baby, this is natural (more or less), but for an adult – not so much.
BUT things do get better over time, as this post will show you. And it is not hopeless – you can impact how fast the situation will improve!
Is your baby’s sleep pattern similar to what it was when he or she was in your stomach? When I was pregnant with my daughter, she was a very active baby. Already in pregnancy week 23, I woke up almost every night because she kicked me so hard. During the first 10 months of her life, she continued to wake up every second hour to feed almost every night.
I know science tells a different story, but with my babies the old wives’ tale is true. My youngest boy didn’t wake my up even once while in my womb – and he has always slept better at night than his sister did at the same age. I suppose some babies simply need more sleep training than others.
Was I tired during my daughter’s first year? No – exhausted! (But then I didn’t do much to teach my baby to sleep better, nor did I know how to improve my own sleep.) So who wants to sleep like a baby..? Not me!
In any case, it’s good to know a bit about how babies sleep in general. Their sleep pattern changes quite a bit during their first year.
Babies’ Sleep Patterns During Their First Year
Newborn Sleep Pattern
Newborn babies tend to sleep a lot, some as much as 20 hours a day. This usually does not mean, though, that Mom and Dad have a lot of spare time. The baby’s sleep cycle, especially during its first month, is a lot shorter than an adult’s. Actually, babies have twice as many periods of light sleep as adults and thus have ample opportunities to wake up.
It is hard work to sleep like a baby! 🙂
Also, there is absolutely no guarantee that the newborn’s longest period of unbroken sleep will occur at night.
Since newborn babies are used to falling back to sleep by being rocked in the warm water inside the womb, the baby might not at all be able to go to sleep on his or her own once born. So even if he or she sleeps most of the day, your baby might very well spend a lot of that time in your arms or at least with your help in some way.
A Swedish child expert, Anna Wahlgren, describes the 2-week-old baby as going through its second birth. Before that, most newborn babies really don’t do much more than sleep and eat. You might not even see them with their eyes open very often. After two weeks, they slowly start to open up to the world outside the womb. At six weeks, many infants have started to sleep more at night that during the day.
But it might take longer. With my youngest boy, my impression is that he more or less just slept during his first 2.5 months – at least compared to his older sister.
Baby Sleep At 3 Months
As your baby grows older, his or her sleep pattern will become more similar to that of adults. At the age of three months, babies sleep some 13-15 hours a day, and usually most of this at night. Still, this does not have to mean undisturbed sleep for you. Most babies wake up at least once or twice every night.
If your baby wakes up often and if you have the energy to think long-term, take some time to try making your baby go to sleep without feeding, by giving him or her a pacifier, rocking gently or whatever you would do at daytime to make your child fall asleep. Chances are he or she is not at all hungry, but still needs some help.
If it’s been a tough night or day and you’re really tired – prioritize your own sleep. Feed your baby and head back to your bed. Or feed in your bed. Don’t play hero or supermom; make your life as easy as possible!
At some point around or after three months, you should be able to guide your baby towards three naps a day. One in the morning, one after lunch and one in the afternoon. Try to keep the baby asleep for over an hour each time. If the baby as slept for over an hour, he should be able to stay awake 1.5 to 2 hours before taking another nap. Life suddenly becomes more predictable!
This way, your baby will go to bed quite early in the evening at around say 8 or 9 pm and should, after a while, consider it to be night until around 7 am. Mmm, some grown up time in the evening!
Baby Sleep At 6 Months And Up
Between 6 and 12 months, babies’ daily sleep will gradually fall to 12 to 14 hours a day and, according to my experience, remain at that amount for quite some time. By this time, if your child is healthy he doesn’t need to eat at night anymore. What he wants may, of course, be another story…
The number of naps is usually reduced from 3 to 2 at some point during the baby’s second half year, one before lunch and one in the afternoon. My babies’ healthcare provider means that babies heading for their first birthday should not sleep after 3 pm to help them be really tired in the evening. That did not work at all with my kids, but it hasn’t been super-important either. But I tried to make them fall asleep before 3 pm for their last nap.
For more details around babies’ sleep schedules at different ages, click here.
And you’ll find a lot more baby sleep tips here.
Good luck and sweet dreams!
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