Still Breastfeeding, No Libido

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Still Breastfeeding, No Libido

My daughter just turned 2 years old last week. I can't seem to stop her from wanting to nurse.

She's my 3rd child. I breastfed my 2 sons and the longest was 18 months, and it took 3 days for him to know he wasn't going to be breastfed anymore.

My daughter doesn't want to give in. She is sleeping with me and my husband, and when my husband and I do have a chance to have sex when she's with my sons in the other room I have to force myself to have sex. I have absolutely no sex drive. My mind wants to, but my body doesn't. I wish I would of started to lay my daughter in her own bed earlier in age, so my husband and I could have more alone time. My husband is very understanding and patient, so its not affecting our relationship too much.

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Still Breastfeeding, No Libido

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Hormones and you-time...
by: Paula

Hi,

I think what you describe is actually very common for new moms, breastfeeding or not. Extended breastfeeding really is great from a health perspective, although it probably can have an effect on your libido, just like you describe. However, being 2 years old, I would assume that breast milk, is quite a small part of your daughter's nutrition? And the breastfeeding hormones should not be nearly as strong as when she was fully breastfed. Has your period come back?

I would guess that the combination of hormones, no time for yourself, no time alone with your hubby three kids and did I mention no time for yourself, is more than enough to effectively kill your libido.

I really think you should get out of the house with or without your hubby, but definitely without your children more often to catch your breath. You'll find babysitting tips here, if you need them.

Also, some researchers claim that 3 years of low libido after childbirth is common and normal, regardless of hormones. I would suspect that pure exhaustion (and no time for yourself) are the main reasons for that.

Hang in there! You have a great husband, by the way :-)

Paula

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