Is My Baby Boy Sexually Abused?

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Is My Baby Boy Sexually Abused?

by June
(Florida)

My inlaws enjoy seeing my baby boy's masculine parts, they put excuses to change the diapers each time we visit them, to bath him each time they change the diapers, and they claim that i should remove the diapers completely to make it easy for the baby to play.

Is it in a way an abuse?

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Is My Baby Boy Sexually Abused?

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Mar 12, 2009

Is this sexual abuse?
by: Baby Help Line - Annie

Hi June,

I would not consider this is abuse. Unless you feel they are getting sexual arousal out of their behavior, which would be unlikely then I would not really be so concerned.

However, if you are uncomfortable with their behavior, then talk it over with your husband, and then talk to them about it. If you are not comfortable with your baby being naked in front of others then that is your choice.

Some families have very different attitudes to body parts, particularly genitals. It maybe they are far more liberal than the way you were bought up so you feel uncomfortable they way they draw attention to it. Some cultures and families, particularly with boys tend to admire their penis as a sign he is a big strong boy, the same as you would strong legs!

Babies are sensual little creatures, and a baby boy can have an erection! It is healthy for them to have a kick without diapers on, both for the fresh air, and the extra freedom to kick without a wad between his legs.

You want your little boy to grow up loving all parts of his body, but at the same time learning which parts we keep private. Babies don't care who sees them, and family members love to be part of the caring of a little one. I love bathing babies, and it is a sensual loving experience, but that is very different from a sexual experience.

If you feel the boundaries you are comfortable with are not being respected then you need to talk it over with your husband and his family. You absolutely have the right to make the decision about who bathes or changes your baby.

Enjoy you little boy,
All the best,
Annie Desantis

Feb 22, 2010

Re:Is My Baby Boy Sexually Abused?
by: Fullredlips22

I would keep him away from them. That doesn't sound normal at all SMH!Its your job as a mother to procted your child if he is in harms way. Trust your motherly instinct.

Feb 23, 2010

Not abuse!!!!
by: Anonymous

Do not listen to the second comment. The first is completely correct. Unless your inlaws are fondling your child or getting aroused then the behavior you describe is completely common and normal. I am sure they would be horrifyed that you feel this way-- for them it sounds like the a naked infant is personifies innocence. Do not shut out your husbands family especially if they enjoy seeing the baby. You should nurture as much love around the baby as possible-- but you are right to keep an eye and discuss any discomfort you hve with your husband. He might explain how his family views things. Enjoy your baby and remember that protecting him also includes protecting him from troubles/arguments and non-issues that you may cause.

Nov 19, 2010

Keep an eye
by: Anonymous

Yes, it could be a child abuse.next time when they ask to give a bath to baby just tell them that baby is already having a bath so no need now.and obviously they r not going to fondle or going to be sexually aroused in front of anyone.who knows what they doing with him in bath or u stay with them in bath when they gona give bath to baby.this is rediculous i won't let such people to touch my baby.be careful.protecting baby is ur first responsibility

Sep 15, 2011

Stay away from them
by: kristina

I have a daughter, but that is just weird to me. I just think that is some type of fetish....

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