Simmer down young man!

He didn't think it would happen to us. Maybe to other couples, but not us. Familiar anyone?

Well I didn't want to believe it was possible either, but we are all in it together, my sleep deprived Lady friends! I am beginning to get the feeling that even the sexiest most sex loving ones of us all have traded in our favourite suspender belt for our newly prized underwireless nursing bras! Before having the baby I thought, really come on. We will be fluffily in love, making love and enjoying our little family. But that was before I really knew about that brain haemorrage sleep dep feeling! I carry it around with me daily.

I find that aside from the sleep dep, hormones, stress and squabbling with my partner, there is the added factor of sleeping apart due to a survival routine we have based around our bubba's crazy sleeping. ( or not sleeping ).My man is in another room and he gets some undisturbed sleep so he can go to work (lucky bugger!) and I throw the baby at him as he gets ready for work and dive into bed for an hour, but apart from that, I battle it alone through the long night..

As much as my man would love me to accept his sudden approach from behind as I chop the vegetables for dinner, I need to bridge the gap somewhat with a bit of intimacy. When is there ever time to lay about and wait casually for the mood to strike. The occasions that it has happened have been me making the effort to rouse myself out of my tiredness and force myself away from the lulling tv and comfort of the couch and the peace & relief of baby being in bed. It's not that I haven't enjoyed it now I have got the hang of it again ( 4 months later ), but I just miss hugging in bed and the quiet, close time that I need which develops naturally into the sexy bit!

Anyway, after a few upsetting confrontations, I think he is starting to understand that we are not alone and that sex is (for the time being) an occasional luxury to be savoured from time to time, like a fine wine one must take out of the cellar, dust off and enjoy to the fullest while it lasts!!! Anyway, I get sleep depravation, he gets sex depravation. Fair play off I suppose...

Finally, like my girlfriends with babies have told me, hang in there, it all goes back to normal again... someday.

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