I'm pretty sure we tried around then but I'd still only count 10 months as the real answer as that's when I could finally relax and enjoy it. 1. it hurt for a long time, 2. I was petrified. I still don't like my husband touching my scar tissue but that's a tiny bit on my perinium. Way too much information but please - let's be honest here!
I had a straightforward and positive birth but had a 2nd degree etar and stitches - it's not weird that I was jumpy about that area being touched. I had a smear test around that time too and the nurse said it did look sore and understood why I was nervous.
I get so fed up with articles I read about reasons women don't want sex after birth and it's always that 1. they're unconfident about their wobbly body and 2. they're tired because of the baby - it never mentions 3. fear or 4. pain!!!
My son's 3 now and it's improved and we have a normal (well - what's normal?!), regular, fabulous sex life. And it's getting better - now I'm pregnant again!