My son is 4 months old and my wife and I got married exactly 1 month before his birth. We planned on getting married even earlier than that but then we found out she was pregnant and waited on the wedding, so it wasn't a shotgun wedding it was actually a delayed wedding which throws people off quite a lot.
Well I read a part that said "barely recognized her" and that stood out to me the most because since my son was born and now its 4 months later I still feel like I have no idea who my wife is. She is no where near the same person she was a year ago or even 5 months ago.
During the pregnancy I knew what to expect because I had been around many pregnant women in my life being the only guy in my family. So that was fine but after our son was born, the very night he was born her personality flipped. Since his birth she hasn't been the same in any way or form.
I had heard all about dads being jealous of their babies and all but that wasn't my problem at all. Although she has completely stopped all emotional and physical attention with me since his birth I still expected it, and it does bother me very badly but I'm not jealous of my son.
What confuses me is even when he is out cold sleeping very soundly and her and I are watching a movie together, she still won't let me touch her at all, not even a little bit. 4 months with absolutely no connection to her at all and its still the same to this day.
I dunno if this is normal or healthy but it is a problem to say the least. Now all that I do and I do absolutely everything I can think of for her becomes a fight and isn't good enough for her and no matter how much time I spend with the baby I get yelled at that Im not a good enough father and mostly get yelled at that I dont spend enough time with the baby.
The weird part is you would think she would be post-pardum and mad at everyone but its only me. She is perfect with our son and everyone else but since the moment he was born she acts like she hates me with all her heart and doesn't want me around. She always says how glad she is I'm going to work or stuff like that. Maybe I'm wrong and its not a new parent issue maybe she just don't love me anymore and blames me for everything for whatever reason I don't know. I guess sometimes you can't do anything but try and prepare for failure.
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