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Hi Momma! This must be driving you mad! I fully understand that it is a very tough situation, especially since you have a 2,5 year old too. Has your youngest son's life change recently? Did you start working, did he get a new babysitter or anything like that? I've seen many babies react in a similar manner (my own included) right after mom went back to work. For a while the little toddler or baby is mourning as well as is very angry over the new situation. Some babies react by refusing to be with mom, others by simply not letting her go at all. The first situation can be very tough emotionally, while the second is completely exhausting. Regardless of if your son is simply going through a stage of separation anxiety or if there has been a major change in his life, I think you are doing a great job trying to help him. Don't blame yourself! What you do need to do is to to some extent set you limits. Give your boy lots of attention, but don't forget yourself and your other son. Go outside alone or with your older boy to have fun together and also ask dad to take you youngest out so that you can spend time at home with going crazy. Cuddle your youngest as much as you can when works for you and the rest of the family. This situation will pass, but it is hard to say how fast. Some studies indicate that babies that are being held and carried a lot become independent faster. So be proud of how much you work to help your baby, but don't forget yourself in the middle of everything. Your boy is not suffering if you are not around all the time. Hope this helps a little bit! /Paula

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Submitted by: Robin

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To Momma's Boy 35 years ago I had a son just like your baby. Let me assure you, that as bad as it seems now, it will pass. Some babies are very anxious and retain some facet of anxiety in their personality. Today my son is 35 and a medical professional, but I would say he still "worries" about things sometimes. How did I cope? First, it's important to get as many people involved in his life as possible so he learns that other people, besides Mom, can be comforting. Second, give yourself a break. Get a backup "mom" for when you need a respite. Finally, change whatever your feeding him, just for a trial, and see if it changes his mood. While he may not be allergic to a particular formula, it still might cause him distress. Not long ago my son said to me, "you know, dairy products always seem to disrupt my digestion." Even though he's not Lactose intolerant, I wonder if that was why he was such a crank as a baby. Good luck!

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