Maybe An "Anti-Libido" Supplement Until The Hormone Roller Coaster Comes To A Complete Stop?

Based on everything I have read in this forum it is clear I am not alone in the post-pregnancy, mid-breast feeding always exhausted marriage that many are seeking help coping with. Knowing I am not the only one doesn't resolve the issues but it helps. Misery loves company I guess. But that got me thinking. American medicine has a pill for nearly every misery we can come up with. Pain. Depression. Anxiety. Etc. Etc. So where is the pill that makes Dad not feel rejected, disappointed, ignored and unloved because his former sex life has dried up before his eyes? Where is the pill that makes Mom fell less guilty, less angry about the imposition of being asked, again, if maybe she might be in the mood tonight (since she wasn't the last ten nights) and she is getting annoyed? AND, where is the pill that makes both Mom and Dad bridge the gap between understanding and rationalizing the thousand really good reasons why sex is a non-priority right now and the fact that Dad still has every urge and need he ever had (remember that is how the baby got there in the first place) and everyone is suffering because that need is no longer being acknowledged as valid - let alone satisfied by Mom?

It does not exist. At least as far as my research could find. If you find it please post. If you set out to develop it after reading this please send me 1% of the profits. (I am sure I and my next three generations could retire on 1% of the profits of that miracle drug.) But seriously, the problem is NOT Mom's low sex drive its Dad's normal sex drive. If Dad had a bit of NON-SEXUAL help curbing the drive everyone may be happier. A friend of mine once told me about a bunch of Monks that needed a crutch to maintain celabacy used to ingest the Chaste Berry. I thought he was pulling my chain. Turns out he was right. Turns out the stuff is commonly known today as Vitex or Vitex Agnus Castus.

This is not medical advice and I make no promises that you will have the same results but, I have been married 22 years and my third child arrived about a year ago. My sex life was barely limping along before. Now, it has flatlined. I know all the reasons my wife is not in the mood anymore. I know that it may get better after baby is 2, 3, 4 or 18 depending on who you listen to. I know that if I was a better man or better person I should be able to deal with the constant rejection and being the absolute last priority in the house right now. I also know cheating and divorce are not viable options. But, even with all that knowledge, understanding, reason and desires to be a better human being - I am not. I was on the verge of walking out on my wife, new baby and older kids because of my sexual instincts, needs, desires and the resentment and frustration that arose from them. Ultimately, I decided that trying an herbal remedy used by monks to keep their desires in check 500 years ago, however unlikely it would work, at least gave me an alternative to the constant frustration and anger which was going to lead me to throw away my life as I know it. As I worked to make it. As I loved it.

Maybe it is psychological, maybe it is a placebo effect, maybe the stuff actually works. I do not know. I do not care. After two weeks things are better all around. My wife and I can get into bed without the tension, resentment, and frustration because I don't want to try to see if she is in the mood. She does not have to say no again and neither of us have to get emotionally toned up right before trying to get to sleep.

Only problem I had, now she wants to feel guilty because I have to take a pill to curb my libido because her libido is gone. Anybody know a cure for an overdeveloped sense of guilt? Good luck to all.

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