Infant Grand Daughter Cries When She Sees Me

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Infant Grand Daughter Cries When She Sees Me

She will smile while mom and dad hold her and I talk to her, but if I make eye contact my grand daughter puckers up and cries. It breaks my heart.

I babysat last night and she just cried and cried. I think she hates me. I don't wear heavy perfume, I brush my teeth to be sure my breath is fresh, and I talk softly to her.

Why is she crying when she is with me? What am I doing wrong?

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Infant Grand Daughter Cries When She Sees Me

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May 29, 2009

Infant Cries when she sees me
by: Baby Help Line

Your grand daughter does not hate you. Infants are very attached to their parents for a while and that is the only person they want to be with. When my son was younger he would not go to anyone without crying. He would only go to my husband for a few minutes and then he would want to come right back to me. It may take a little while but your grand daughter will form a great bound with you that will last a life time.

Best wishes to you and your family,

LIZ

Apr 14, 2011

Beautiful Grandaughter
by: Jules

Oh I know how you feel, my grandaughter is doing the same to me goes to her mum, dad, her aunt, uncle and her other grandparents fine, but with me i can hold her for a few minutes and then she cries and i don't mean cries she screams with real tears and also stiffens her body and then I feel so bad. As soon as she is in her mum's arms she settles. I felt so bad that i was prepared to walk away from her just because I felt so bad, but i have decided to go everyday to see her hold her for a few minutes and then hand her back before she cries, its hard as i love this little girl to bits. What elese can i do?

May 15, 2011

I feel your pain
by: Faye

I am going through the same thing with my granddaughter. This is a first for me all babies have always gravitated towards me. I am so glad i decided to google this question because it breaks me heart when i just want to love her ad she cries. We live in the same house and i try all day I too just keep going back and when she becomes upset I give her back. It was so cute yesterday was my birthday and she stayed with me for a while..I was so happy.

May 15, 2011

granddaughter cries when I hold her
by: Anonymous

Sorry to see other's are feeling the same pain. My grandchild is now 2..and they live two states away, so now it's harder. She never really got over the crying when I held her, but like others..I kept it short and sweet then handed her back as much as I didn't want to. We try to see them every 3 months or so, and while she warms up to me about day 2, it's usually the night before we have to leave. I hate that I can not be close to this child who holds my heart, but I guess it is what it is. My best to all other nana's going through this and I hope those of you who see your baby's often will have wonderful relationships with them.

Aug 29, 2011

granddaughter hates me
by: Tammy

OH MY! I am going thru the same thing with my 2 month old granddaughter.She will go 2 my son & her mama & some others but she screams,cries & just wont stop crying when im near.It breaks my heart so much 2 think she dont like me or scared of me.Is it my smell(bath daily)& a very clean person.I do have a deep voice & am mistaken for a male alot of the time,is it that?The problem is i watch her while her mama works on 1st shift & the crying is so upsetting for me becoz i hate 2 see her so upset coz she dont want 2 b with me.Does anyone have any advice of what i can do 2 get her 2 love me?Sad :(

Aug 29, 2011

Granddaughters
by: faye

My granddaughter finally warmed up to me when she was three months old...then her mom wanted to go to North Carolina for a visit and they were gone for a month...it took her about a week to get used to me again after they came back and now she will be moving permanently to NC Sep 9...How long have you been taking care of her..i figured with my granddaughter it was just that she is used to her mom...she will warm up to you.

Nov 29, 2011

Glad Im Not Alone
by: Anonymous

My granddaughter screams untill she throws up she is 3 months old and I think it has got worse not better she only lives 3 houses from me so I have seen her a lot. I have 2 grandsons who love me to bits all I wanted was a little girl and she seems scared of me it breaks my heart everytime she does it . I have noticed that everyone on here is talking about a granddaughter no grandsons is it a girly thing maybe. It saddens me that I can mind her 3 yr old brother but now they have to find someone else to mind her cause she wont stay with me ,I wish there was an answer cause this is killing me.

Nov 29, 2011

She will come around
by: Faye

She will warm up to you I promise. I know how hard this is for you; I have had my own day care and work in daycare centers for the last 15 years and all babies love me this is the first time this has every happened to me and i love her more than anything. Now she will sit with me and not cry but she does not smile either. As your granddaughter gets older she will take cues from her brothers and fall in love with grandma. There is no way that we can love them as much as we do and they not feel it. for me the problem is I have been so used to being babies first option over MoM that i could not understand what was happening. Lets just continue to keep each other strong.

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