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Crying Baby All The Time

by Anonymous

My 4 month old never sleeps, it's such a battle to get him to sleep, he cries all day long, not just crying but screaming.

What do I do; doctors says it's colic or reflux.

He refuses bottles also, but as he is putting on weight no one seems to worry.

I'm worried though, it's so frustrating.

Please anyone with any ideas.

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Baby Help Line Response:

Hi!

The first thing you should do is to contact a better doctor! I get angry when I hear about moms who are in your situation – getting a "maybe" diagnosis and nothing more. These days there is medication available both for colic and reflux and your baby deserves proper medical attention!

One thing you can do at home if you haven't done it yet is to try elevating your son's crib some 30 degrees to see if it helps his sleeping. If it does, you should definitely discuss reflux in more detail with a doctor.

One possible home remedy for colic is baby massage. Get yourself a good book with picture that explains how to do it and give it a try. You can learn more about colic and possible remedies here.

When feeding your baby (breast or bottle) try keeping him in an upright position; this will help both colic and reflux. If you do give your baby formula, you could also experiment with giving him other types, such as for example soy based. A good pediatrician should be able to recommend proper brands where you live. And don't forget burping!

Lat, you say that your baby refuses the bottle. If he is mainly breastfed, that is common. It can also bethe other way around - a breastfed baby who gets access to a bottle may very well start rejecting the breast. Anyway, you migh find these tips on how to get your baby to accept bottle feeding useful.

I hope this provides you with a few ideas and some stamina to not give up!

Good luck!

Paula

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Crying Baby All The Time

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Feb 15, 2009

same boat
by: stacci

hi,
its a releif to hear i'm not the only mother with a baby that cries all the time it has ben happening since my son was about 1 and 1/2 months old he is now 1 week off 5 months. i have been to doctor after doctor. one says reflux gave me medication for him didn't help seemed to upset him. another said he was hungry and sugested formula that only worked for 2 weeks. another said he doesn't have reflux but has colic. i'm getting so stressed out he looks in pain but no doctor listens. he has a 6-7 hour sleep some nights but i think that is because he is awake all day. it is impossible to get him to sleep i have tried just bout everything i can think of and the comments from people and inlaws driving me nuts i know they just trying to help but 4 months of crying everyday is just tiring. getting appointment with another doctor this week see if they help. sorry i got no answers for you but its a relief to know i'm not alone

Dec 15, 2009

My Baby Never Stops Crying
by: Lilly

I am sorry to say I am glad someone else is having the same problems we are. My baby just turned 2 months yesterday. I don't know if I can really remember her not crying. It is so few and far between. She wakes up, she cries. It doesn't matter. And heaven forbid you lay her on her back, screaming will commence. We are so frustrated and I feel like everyone who said babies are beautiful, fun bundles of joy, LIED to us. I want to feel happy to have my baby. It took us 8 years of trying and a specialist to get her. All that work to feel so unable to help my child, is very hard to take.

Dec 16, 2009

Get help
by: Baby Help Line - Paula

Lilly,

Have you taken your baby to a pediatrician? If she screems when placed on her back she might be suffering from reflux, for example. And a lot can be done to help her in such case. And even if she has colic there are remedies these days that might help her too.

Regarding the image of the happy new family - for many new families, that image is completely false. A new baby is overwhelming and a huge change for the couple. I can totally understand your disappointment, especially since you had to wait for such a long time. It is easy to get very high expectations then.

Babies scream. They need a lot of attention and they scream anyway. They often make their parents (and especially the moms) completely exhausted. Especially the first three months are often the worst. After that many babies seem to calm down slowly.

I actually felt as if I was going to die from pure exhaustion when my first baby was around 2 months old. But you don't. And somehow you endure and then slowly things start to get easier. And happier.

In addition to taking your baby to the doctor to have her examined for reflux and other possible reasons for her crying, make sure you take turns with your partner and also invest in a baby sling or carrier of she is calmer when held, so that you can have your hands free while carrying her.

Some babies also get calmer using baby massage or giving them a nice, warm bath.

Also see if you can find a brave friend or relative who can take her out for a stroller walk now and then to give you some rest. If you explain that she will cry during the walk but that that's OK, then maybe you can get some very well deserved rest.

Things will get better, I promise! In a few months time, she is very likely to be a giggling, smiling little girl. And this tough period will start to fade in your memory.

How ever hard it may seem right now, also try to note the little times when she is not crying and enjoy those.

I wish you all the best,

Paula

Mar 06, 2010

re
by: stacci

hey, i finally got a doctor to listen to me wen my son was 7 months old. after seven months of my baby screaming/ crying in pain he was diagnosed with a dairy intolerance. if you just keep going back and telling your doc you really aren't coping something has to be done they eventually listen. being a young 1st time mum away from my family it was even harder, but i stuck to my guns. MOTHER KNOWS BEST!! my son is now 17 1/2 months and thriving we still have days wen he has had some dairy and we have a few shocking days wit him. Hopefully you have got things sorted. i know its hard.

Mar 13, 2010

that's what babies do
by: newmommyafter9years

I just gave birth 3 weeks ago, the last baby i had is now 9 years old, and I totally forgot how much they cry... Im starting all over again and it's really hard to get used to not sleeping the whole night... The GOOD NEWS IS... they grow up so fast and soon you too will forget how much crying she/he did, enjoy them while they're little ;{)

Oct 17, 2010

chronic crying
by: Lindsay

It is reassuring to know I am not the only mom who experiencing this! I have a 19 month old daughter that slept fine during the day but at night she was a nightmare!!! She never slept and grunted and grunted for hours!!!I used to slept with her on my chest just to get through the night an get some sleep. My daughter had colic which she grew out of at about 4 months she started napping and sleeping and got on a schedule and became an amazingly pleasant adorable little girl.

Just recently I had a son I have heard he has colic and reflux and anal stenosis which is where his anal opening is too small and he can't empty his bowel properly. however, he cries and cries and cries non stop and he screams like high pitch shrills. I don't know what to do. I am having the hardest time getting through I have a 20 month old and my son is 4 months he screams all the time he grunts he is always miserable he sucks on his hands like he is hungry I feed him and he won't eat I have tried everything sensitive formula changing my diet.

I am finally letting him cry it out. I make sure all his needs are met and then I let him cry even if it is an hour plus. My husband is in the military and is gone a lot I am alone raising a 20 month and 4 month old that never stops crying I keep going back to the docs they say colic which it isn't they say reflux maybe a little but this isn't normal no one listens and he just cries and cries I don't know how to get through this!

Oct 18, 2010

lindsy
by: stacci

hi i am feeling for you. are you breast feeding? If doctors aren't listening to you can try removing all dairy from diet it takes up to a month for dairy to get out of your child's system and for you to notice a difference and if there is a change it could most likely be a dairy intolerance. Make sure you take calcium supplements if you are going to try it. if your baby is formula fed the only way to see if it is a dairy intolerance is to get referred to a pediatrician to get formula prescribed. if the doctors think it reflux have you been prescribed any thing? I've just had another baby she is now 5 months she was put on prescribed formula at 2 months (she is now 5 months) but that was because her brother was on it so i didn't get any arguments this time.

I also bought a baby wrap which is called wrap me up the brand is love me baby. she has been in it twice and i have actually had some sleep. its safe because there hands are up but covered so if she rolls she can still hold her head up. I'm not sure what else i can tell you, but if you would like to talk my email is stacci_7@hotmail.com. it would be good to chat to someone who is going through the same thing.

Mar 02, 2011

So late :(
by: Anonymous

I know this is an old thread, but I felt the need to comment on this. I have a two month old who NEVER ever stops crying. She screams day and night and doesn't sleep. I have things I must do, but I can't do anything because my child is so horrendously fussy. I believe she's colic, but I'm not sure. I always fell extremely guilty when I leave my child to cry. I just want to hold her, but there is so much more that I have to do.

Mar 03, 2011

crying 2 month old
by: stacci

only do what you HAVE to do otherwise you will get to exhausted and if you can get someone to come help you a couple of times a week to get washing and things like that done. i made a day once a fortnight and got my partner or mum to come help and we cooked all day meals that could be frozen so it was easier on me. depending on whether you are breast feeding or bottle feeding but i found MAM brand bottles to be the best. its normal for a baby to cry but not constantly that neither of you get any sleep i would go to a doctor and keep going till i get some sort of help or an answer.

May 12, 2011

Probiotic!
by: Anonymous

We were having the same problem with our 6 week old. He cried from about 4-9 pm everyday non stop. Only stopped to eat. He is very gassy and only has a bowel movement once ever 3-4 days. Doctors said it was colic and that it would pass.They also prescribed him to Prevacid for reflux because that "might" be it. Well I just couldn't put my 6 week old on medicine without knowing for sure what was wrong. We tried everything! I started reading up on infant and baby probiotics because I take them myself, and I found lots of people using them. We also have a really good friend that is a chiropractor. He massaged my babies back and also suggested a probiotic. The first day after we saw the chiropractor and used the probiotic we had a bowel movement! He has now gone almost everyday, and the crying for hours has stopped! It takes a few days to a week for the probiotic to start working, so give it a chance. He still gets a little fussy because of gas, which we are working on, but we have our happy baby back! We use Baby Jarrows Infant probiotic, but there are lost of other good brand out there. Heard Bio Gaia works great also. There website actually has tests done and how their product reduces colic. Plus, probiotics are a natural way to help the body.Hope this helps someone!

Jun 08, 2011

crying baby need help!!!
by: Anonymous

I have a nine month old baby that just cry all the time and she is not colic! she does not move at all, she does not roll over to her stomach at all, she does not crawl and the doctor says nothing is wrong. she only bents her 1 leg. Please I need help...

Jun 08, 2011

re
by: stacci

maybe get another opinion? if another doc says nothing wrong just tell em u want to be referred to a pediatrition. they specialise in children. the best thing i was told to help my son go on his tummy and strengthen his neck was to lay down and have him lay on his stomach on me. he was much more happier that way. you could try that till you see another doc. have you seen a maternal nurse? has the maternal nurse said anything?

Jun 15, 2011

Crying 9 month old
by: Ludo

I have a nine month old who wont stop crying - cant get anything done. He requries so so much attention. I see other mothers and babies and they seem to be enjoying their time together - and it breaks my heart that we are not the same. Health visitor told me today to take him to a chiropractor. Has anyone any experience of this?

Jun 15, 2011

chiro
by: Anonymous

ive taken both my kids to the chiro after the birth because they have just been through alot i went aswell would be surprised how good u feel afterwards. if that doesnt make a huge difference might need to see if u are at all stressed?? all kids pic up on that and will play up more.

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