9 Month Old Baby Won't Sleep

9 Month Old Baby Won't Sleep

by Sara
(Fort Wayne, IN)

My 9 month old daughter has never been a sleeper but it seems as she gets older she sleeps less and less at night. She wakes up almost every 2-3 hours wanting to eat.

I've tried giving her less food, giving her water, giving her a pacifier, a bedtime routing, letting her cry herself to sleep. Nothing works. I NEED SLEEP!!!! What can I do? Any advice. Any other tricks?

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May 04, 2009

9 Month Old Won't Sleep
by: Baby Help Line

I can imagine how tired you must be. Here are some things you can try. Try to limit her naps in the day time. Try not to let her nap after 5:00pm. Give her a warm bath before her last feeding. You may want to try some cereal before her last feeding. I would put 2Tbls of cereal in 8oz of formula for my sons last feeding. You can also keep her room just a little cooler than normal this sometimes helps little ones sleep. If she is still waking up very often then you may want to tell your pediatrician.

Best Wishes, LIZ

May 13, 2009

9 month old wont sleep all night
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 month old & he will not sleep at night. He wakes up we leave him to cry but he just keeps crying until we bring him into bed. We would just love for him to start sleeping all night.

May 26, 2009

9 month old baby girl won't sleep!
by: 1st time Mommy

My 9 month old will not sleep through the night she gets up 4-5 times a night. We have tried to let her "cry her self to sleep" but all she ends up doing is throwing up on herself in frustration. I have tried cereal, cooler room, letting her fall asleep herself...everything! I don't know what to do!

May 27, 2009

Separation anxiety
by: Baby Help Line - Paula

Hi,

You know, at the age of 9 months old, many babies tend to have quite a strong separation anxiety. They have figured out that they are their own persons, separate from their moms, and that really scares them.

Hence they want to be close, be carried, be in the same room, and become incosolable if left alone in the bed.

Using the cry it out method is very likely to just make things worse at this age. Instead, trying to respond to this little person's needs, by really letting him or her be close is a much more effective way to make teh anxiety go away.

There have been studies showing that babies that are held a lot become independent faster. I guess they gain the security they need to face the world again.

I know it is exhausting! I was about to snap when my daughter woke up every hour at this age. Take turns to cudle your baby, consider co-sleeping part of the night if necessary and remember to let dad help out at night too.

It will pass! ANd faster if you try to respond to the little terrorist's needs. ;-)

Hope this helps a little bit!

Paula

May 28, 2009

Speical way to make your baby sleep
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 month old baby too. She always wake up at night time before but she sleep better now after
I give her one more pillow. You can try wear a t-shirt for a day ( of course don't make it so dirty ). Take off your T-shirt, put the pillow
inside and put next to your baby. It's work for me but I don't know can help you or not. Wish you can have a good sleep soon!

Jul 12, 2009

Babies are not designed to sleep like adults
by: Claire

Thank heavens for people like Paula offering sensible advise.

Babies are not designed to sleep through the night (which technically is classed as 5 hours, sorry to disappoint those that are wanting the magic 7pm - 7am)

My first baby woke every 2 hrs until he was almost 2yrs. we bed shared and I was far more rested than many of my fellow Mums who paced the floorboards or who tried cry-it-out only to then have to calm down a very upset baby.

My second baby (9mths old) is a much better sleeper and only wakes a couple of times a night. It's his nature nothing I have done. I too bed share with him as it's wonderful and gives him all the closeness and security he needs to develope into a happy and secure person.

Accept that your baby needs to wake for comfort, reassurance, food or just to practice a new skill and embrace what ever makes your baby happy. Accept that sleeping through the night at such a young age is a myth, stop putting so much pressure on yourself to achieve the impossible and you will enjoy what little sleep you get so much more.

And if the woman down the road boast her baby sleeps all night, take it with a pinch of salt, when you dig the reality is often quite different.

Aug 30, 2009

Bed Sharing
by: Sandra

I bed share too and was starting to wonder if I was doing the right thing. I can't imagine leaving my child to cry it out. what purpose that serves other than to give my self more sleep (supposedly) is beyond me.
After reading the posts, I know that I'm doing the right thing.
My 9 month old started doing better by going about 3-4 hours, but now he is back to his old antics. I guess I have no choice but to deal with it.
All a part of being a mom.

Sep 05, 2009

any ideas??
by: Emma

hi,my 9 month old hardly ever sleeps..its hard work trying to get her to nap during the day and in the night she wakes every 2hours and sometimes she wont drink her milk or water so it makes it more difficult for me to try and get her back to sleep which takes up to an hour sometimes(this is a killer at 2am)she has never drunk more than 4oz of her milk and it can take her half an hour to drink this she is lovely but very frustrating.
i put her to bed about 6 after a bath she has her milk and drifts off so as i leave the room she screams until she gags so i have to bring her down stairs.once she finally falls asleep she wakes all the time and from 4:30am that's it i have no hope she doesn't go back to sleep and i have to get up and wont sleep again till like lunch time!she shares a room with me as i only have a 2bed house and my son has the other room i didnt know if is the problem and she has got to clingy to me??
any ideas
thanks...a very tired mummy

Sep 08, 2009

My 9 month wont sleep
by: Bridie

I am so pleased i found this page!
i thought it was just me suffering from a baby that wont sleep. Hes 9 months now, i think his teeth are on the move so at the moment he sleeps from 9pm to around midnight, then im up every hour with him. I think it is a little bit of seperation anxiety as well because as soon as ive picked him up he settles back down, until i place him back in the cot that is!!! But is it bad that hes NEVER slept through (more than four hours......)
Ive never been so tired. But hes my little man so i forgive him as soon as i get a gummy smile :) xx

Sep 21, 2009

9 month will no longer sleep by himself. HELP!!
by: Anonymous

I am so happy to have found this site, I could cry. I have a 9 month old son, who has suddenly decided that he will not sleep in his crib, and that he can't sleep without me snuggling him. These last few weeks have been so hard. My husband and I co-slept with him until he was about 6 months. He seamlessly transitioned to sleeping in the crib. We could lay him on his belly, turn the lights out, shut the door and he would go to sleep all on his own. When he turned 8 months he learned how to stand up in the crib, this is where our problems began. We would lay him down, only for him to stand back up. However, when he grew tired of standing, he would lay himself down and drift off to sleep. Now, we lay him down, and he stands up and wails (this happens nap and bed time). Just to see if we could wait him out, we let attempt to cry himself to sleep. This didn't work. It's like a battle of wills with this kid. He cried for nearly 2 hours! (I of course when in periodically to try to calm him down, but refused to take him out the crib) After 2 hours, we gave in. The moment I took him out the crib and laid him in bed with me, he was fast asleep. It has gotten to the point now where if I move to get up, he get's up too. For example, he was sound asleep the other night, snoring and all. I got up to use the bath room. When I shifted to get out the bed, he shifted in my direction. When I got up, with eyes still closed, he sat up too. I am at my wits end. For the life of me, I can't understand what has happened. He has gone from sleeping by himself, to my not being able to move without him waking. I need HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sep 21, 2009
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I am so happy to have found this site, I could cry. I have a 9 month old son, who has suddenly decided that he will not sleep in his crib, and that he can't sleep without me snuggling him. These last few weeks have been so hard. My husband and I co-slept with him until he was about 6 months. He seamlessly transitioned to sleeping in the crib. We could lay him on his belly, turn the lights out, shut the door and he would go to sleep all on his own. When he turned 8 months he learned how to stand up in the crib, this is where our problems began. We would lay him down, only for him to stand back up. However, when he grew tired of standing, he would lay himself down and drift off to sleep. Now, we lay him down, and he stands up and wails (this happens nap and bed time). Just to see if we could wait him out, we let attempt to cry himself to sleep. This didn't work. It's like a battle of wills with this kid. He cried for nearly 2 hours! (I of course when in periodically to try to calm him down, but refused to take him out the crib) After 2 hours, we gave in. The moment I took him out the crib and laid him in bed with me, he was fast asleep. It has gotten to the point now where if I move to get up, he get's up too. For example, he was sound asleep the other night, snoring and all. I got up to use the bath room. When I shifted to get out the bed, he shifted in my direction. When I got up, with eyes still closed, he sat up too. I am at my wits end. For the life of me, I can't understand what has happened. He has gone from sleeping by himself, to my not being able to move without him waking. I need HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sep 28, 2009

9 month old won't sleep AT ALL!!1
by: Anonymous

Ok, my 9 month old baby girl has never been a good napper, but pretty decent at night (from 12:00am-7:30am) Anyway, last night was the worst.. Up at 4:00am no napping all day no matter what, And refusing sleep, just finally went to sleep at 11:45am. I can barely stay awake for 19 hours without crying and she has been playing ALL day, no fussiness, nothing.. I'm going to call my dr tomm... but VERY concerned.

Oct 01, 2009

my nine month old baby won't sleep
by: First time mom

My baby does not nap very well throughout the day and then wakes up more than four times during the night to suck on my breasts. On top of it she cries for everything and has my senses frayed when I am home with her all day. She naps for only twenty minute approximately.

I have decided to wean her as of today since I also teach and this breast sucking all night is draining me. Tonight I also allowed her to cry herself to sleep. Her daddy and I took turns reassuring her and she has been asleep for almost two hours now.

I wonder what I am doing wrong with her?

Oct 09, 2009

9 month old baby should need more sleep!
by: Sharon

I now know that I am not crazy! Who finally has answers? I read a lot of issues, but I saw no responses on how to deal with it. I am so tired and do not know how to convince her that she and mommy needs sleep!!

Oct 13, 2009

I'm in the same boat
by: Anonymous

Thank goodness I am not alone. My little guy became a wonderful sleeper at just 3 months of age - we could put him down awake but tired and he would magically drift off on his own. Of course when he was very small he would nap on me and I would enjoy the snuggles.

Lately he is just the opposite. He is just 9 months now and the last few weeks have been horrible with his sleep. I think it's a combination of a few things - teething, growth spurt, separation anxiety and the fact that he is very mobile (crawling and standing up). Poor guy, so much going on. When we put him down at night he crawls right over, stands up and screams. It's almost like he just wants to keep going or is afraid of missing anything.

I too tried to let him cry for a while but that just escalated him to such a state. He's so overtired at times that doesn't help matters either. For now I have resorted to many more hugs, some occasional naps on me (though he is getting far too heavy for that) and disturbed nights. I'm assuming that this won't be a permanent thing and as with most of his scheduling - the ball seems to be in his court.

Oct 20, 2009

Mine wont sleep either!
by: Anonymous

By two weeks old she was sleeping in her crib in her own room. I would get up every 2 hours to breastfeed and she would fall asleep in my arms. Then we started bottle propping. From about 3 weeks of age on, she has needed that food in her sleep. My daughter from then on (now at nine months) eats a 9oz bottle with 3 scoops of cereal and 2 scoops of formula maybe a total of 2-5 times a night, and they are bone dry when i go back in there. she sadly requires pure silence as well. Her hungry cry is very distinct. She also does 20+ diapers a day as well as feeds 4 jars of food and a bottle every hour and a half throughout the day.

I am convinced that I am in a position similar to yours. I figure once she's a bit older and can understand me saying the word "sleep" and all that it entails, she will obey. As for right now, this is it. There is no crying it out. There is no rocking her (she hates being cuddled and rocked. shes more of a bouncer). Any noise when sleepy including my own voice infuriates her. Any touch no matter how soothing she tried climbing up my arm to scream/cry 'hunger' right in my face. Shes fiercly independent, but if she needs that bottle and diaper change she'll tell me. Age and being able to understand further how to do as she is told is the only logical choice i see. According to her physical therapist she is very tiny but has muscle development typical of a child four to six months older than her.

Another note: Mine is walking, babbling 'da da's and has 4 top teeth and three on bottom. 1st time mommy

maybe once all the teeth come in? *crosses fingers*

also have brought up the frequent hunger and urination to the pediatrician and have been waved off as if its no concern; but i know better. am sure that as a child develops and grows more, these phases will play themselves out.

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Oct 20, 2009
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By two weeks old she was sleeping in her crib in her own room. I would get up every 2 hours to breastfeed and she would fall asleep in my arms. Then we started bottle propping. From about 3 weeks of age on, she has needed that food in her sleep. My daughter from then on (now at nine months) eats a 9oz bottle with 3 scoops of cereal and 2 scoops of formula maybe a total of 2-5 times a night, and they are bone dry when i go back in there. she sadly requires pure silence as well. Her hungry cry is very distinct. She also does 20+ diapers a day as well as feeds 4 jars of food and a bottle every hour and a half throughout the day. I am convinced that I am in a position similar to yours. I figure once she's a bit older and can understand me saying the word "sleep" and all that it entails, she will obey. As for right now, this is it. There is no crying it out. There is no rocking her (she hates being cuddled and rocked. shes more of a bouncer). Any noise when sleepy including my own voice infuriates her. Any touch no matter how soothing she tried climbing up my arm to scream/cry 'hunger' right in my face. Shes fiercly independent, but if she needs that bottle and diaper change she'll tell me. Age and being able to understand further how to do as she is told is the only logical choice i see. According to her physical therapist she is very tiny but has muscle development typical of a child four to six months older than her. Another note: Mine is walking, babbling 'da da's and has 4 top teeth and three on bottom. 1st time mommy maybe once all the teeth come in? *crosses fingers* also have brought up the frequent hunger and urination to the pediatrician and have been waved off as if its no concern; but i know better. am sure that as a child develops and grows more, these phases will play themselves out.

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Oct 22, 2009

My baby won't sleep
by: Anonymous

My almost 9 month old daughter won't sleep at night, we have a night time routine and she goes to sleep just fine after I rock her. She will sleep for a few hours, and then wake up like its party time. I giver her the pacifier but never a bottle. It take a while for her to go back to sleep. I've tried letter her cry it out, but since she shares a room with me and my husband. The letter her cry it out really does not work for us. I don't know what else to do. I need sleep.. HELP!!!

Oct 25, 2009

I'm there too
by: Cynthia

Hi to all,

What a wonderful page with lots of support. My son is almost 9 months old and I have been struggling with his sleep patterns for months. I am a single mother, first baby, and he has been sleeping with me since day one, except during daytime naps when he sleeps in his crib. I went through the 8 week colic phase which is how the co-sleeping got started. He just didn't want to be left alone. I have been contemplating trying those sleep suggestions that all these baby books offer and have tried a few times to let him cry it out with no success. He can outcry me and I can't watch him suffer like that. These books never give you the real life situations that we encounter.

After staying up yet again until 2am last night while he fussed and played and wanted to be carried, I have decided that I am going to stop reading all this advice on how to make your baby get into a sleep pattern and let him be the little person that he is. Our babies need us and we should be there. Have I not spent many late nights out at a club partying the night away or pulling an all-nighter studying for an exam, but was still able to get up and go early the next day, all day? Absolutely, so why when the most important person in the world needs me, am I so concerned with how much sleep I'm getting? This just doesn't make sense. Yes, I'm exhausted and yes I'm cranky and sometimes depressed, but this is motherhood. One day he won't need me anymore and I will miss those days when I was his whole world. I want to look back and remember that I was a loving mother and did not leave him in his crib to cry himself to sleep when he needed me. Have we not all cried our self to sleep as adults at some time? How did that feel? Not so great. That's how our baby must feel.

So to all those fellow mothers in the same situation, let's be there for our children and treasure every moment. Stop listening to all those parents who tell you that their baby goes to bed at 7am and sleeps through the night. And stop thinking that we are doing anything wrong. We are not. One thing that really helped me was a website that talked about high energy babies. It had lots of great information about these types of babies and how to get through these trying times. I will try to find it and post it on here.

I hope this has helped someone out there. Finding this page has helped me immensely. I will be thinking of all of you the next late night and will know that I'm not alone in my struggles. Love to all.

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Oct 25, 2009
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Hi to all, What a wonderful page with lots of support. My son is almost 9 months old and I have been struggling with his sleep patterns for months. I am a single mother, first baby, and he has been sleeping with me since day one, except during daytime naps when he sleeps in his crib. I went through the 8 week colic phase which is how the co-sleeping got started. He just didn't want to be left alone. I have been contemplating trying those sleep suggestions that all these baby books offer and have tried a few times to let him cry it out with no success. He can outcry me and I can't watch him suffer like that. These books never give you the real life situations that we encounter. After staying up yet again until 2am last night while he fussed and played and wanted to be carried, I have decided that I am going to stop reading all this advice on how to make your baby get into a sleep pattern and let him be the little person that he is. Our babies need us and we should be there. Have I not spent many late nights out at a club partying the night away or pulling an all-nighter studying for an exam, but was still able to get up and go early the next day, all day? Absolutely, so why when the most important person in the world needs me, am I so concerned with how much sleep I'm getting? This just doesn't make sense. Yes, I'm exhausted and yes I'm cranky and sometimes depressed, but this is motherhood. One day he won't need me anymore and I will miss those days when I was his whole world. I want to look back and remember that I was a loving mother and did not leave him in his crib to cry himself to sleep when he needed me. Have we not all cried our self to sleep as adults at some time? How did that feel? Not so great. That's how our baby must feel. So to all those fellow mothers in the same situation, let's be there for our children and treasure every moment. Stop listening to all those parents who tell you that their baby goes to bed at 7am and sleeps through the night. And stop thinking that we are doing anything wrong. We are not. One thing that really helped me was a website that talked about high energy babies. It had lots of great information about these types of babies and how to get through these trying times. I will try to find it and post it on here. I hope this has helped someone out there. Finding this page has helped me immensely. I will be thinking of all of you the next late night and will know that I'm not alone in my struggles. Love to all.

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Oct 26, 2009

Wonderful!
by: Baby Help Line - Paula

Cynthia,

What a wonderful comment! And for a single mom to be so strong and say hey, this is motherhood and this is my child needing me; I'll cope. Your son is very lucky to have you as his mom.

It can be sooo exhausting and everybody has to feel their own limits, but at this age - 9 months - many babies are fussy and poor sleepers. A lot is going on with their development and with separation anxiety.

It will get better, and probably sooner without any cry-it-out methods, especially at this age.

So hang in there!

And do come back in a couple of months and let other mothers know that it DID get better!

Take care,

Paula

Oct 30, 2009

not sleeping either
by: vicki

Well its good to know that there are so many other mothers who are dealing with the same problem! My son started sleeping all night at around 3 months, and would sleep anywhere between 10 and 12 hours! But halfway through 8 months, he has stopped sleeping! He's getting all 4 of his top front teeth in at once, and I'm hoping when they come through, he will start sleeping better! He has always went to bed at 7, and still does, but now we can't get through 4 hours without him up and crying! I tried to let him cry himself back to sleep, but listening to him scream isn't letting me sleep either! I've been putting him in bed with me and my husband, and it helps a little, but he still wakes up crying every 2 hours! I think the best help right now would be a post from someone with an older baby who experienced the same thing, just to know how long this lasts! I'm starting to get used to it, but it reminds me why this is my last baby! Good luck to everyone!

Nov 03, 2009

Before 12 months...
by: Baby Help Line - Paula

Hi Vicki,

Well, two of our kids both did this (very fussy at night at around nine-ten month old. And both stopped before their first birthday, with a little help from us. The help mainly comprised of not letting them feed at night, but rather sleep with dad.

You can read a little bit about what we did here:

You can read a little bit about what we did here. Check ot the tip about letting dad help.

If you browse around the baby sleep help questions, you'll find several more posts with tips regarding this.

Good luck!

Paula

Nov 13, 2009

problem and solution ...maybe
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 month old baby girl..she has been waking up for a pacifier for i don't know how long..i have been rocking her to sleep but lately when i go to put her in the crib she wakes right up turn on her belly and thens stands up. This is very frustrating and i get very little sleep.
I tried letting her cry it out but shes doesn't calm down she starts crying so hard and hyperventilating and it takes even longer to get her to bed. So im trying something new...
I put her in the bed and like always she turns and gets up so i have her her blanket and walked out. Then i let her cry for about 15 minutes then i went back in her room gave her her pacifier layed her back down and put my hand on her stomach and rocked her and made the shhhhh sound after 5 minutes she was sleeping..hope it helps someone else

Nov 20, 2009

my 9 month old baby girl wont sleep!
by: Anonymous

i like this site! i need help, my girl slept from 7pm-7am from 6 wks old till 6 months. NOW IM PAYING FOR IT.

she naps for 20 mins max in the day a couple of times. and at night- nothing, she goes down at 7pm ish and up at 11, 1,2,4 and then 5.05am is IT! we are up dressed and downstairs. we are going to bed at 8pm these days and at end of tethers in night, she seems to pop and her put her knees underneath her alot- shes 9 months, could it be colic?

Dec 09, 2009

i know the feeling
by: Anonymous

hi there,
when your so sleep deprived and feeling like you are the only one out there with this issue its so nice to know your NOT ALONE hehe. my little 9 month old is doing the exact same thing. its the clingy teething and separation anxiety stage so we just have to wait it out. by comforting your baby is the best thing you could do. i have tried to feed her up before bedtime to rule out hunger and ive always made sure she is not too warm or too cold , not in any pain or anything to make her cry and the little bugger still wakes up. so hang in there its normal we are just unlucky that its us but lets remember they grow so fast so lets try to enjoy the 5 times a night visits with our bubbbas- so special lol .

Dec 14, 2009

Me too!!!!
by: Anonymous

This is the greatest find yet!!! Misery sure does love company LOL. But it's not really misery it just feels like that some nights. My 9 month old son is doing the same exact thing as all of you and I'm in it with you ladies!!! WE ARE NOT ALONE :)

From 4-7 months he slept from 8:30 to 6:30 not one peep in between. It got to the point where I had to wake him just so I could change his diaper b/c otherwise he would overflow by morning and the bed would be wet. But those were the days LOL

Now on his 7th tooth he is a very different baby regarding sleep. His daytime naps are scattered at best and as much as I try to get him to stay on schedule I can't. Many of you non-first time moms are probably laughing quite hard at me right now. So these days I just try to breathe and get through. Crying it out is not working just as many of you other moms are finding and the only thing left is try my best to be the mother that my boy needs and not the mother I think I should be. If that makes sense.

It's nice to know you're all out there. Thank to everyone for sharing.

Dec 18, 2009

Non sleeping baby
by: Rebecca

Well, ladies, a common problem we all seem to share. My son has never been a good sleeper. He has GERD, a dairy allergy, teething and painful gas. He was colicky as a newborn and it took several months to find the right medicine and dosage. So, unfortunately, I can't relate to the mommies who have had no problems until now but I can share the wisdom of someone who hasn't slept through the night since my son was born.
Please just breathe and relax. You're all excellent parents so please don't waste your time thinking and doubting. Your baby will get the sleep he or she needs. But the moms who have their babies on schedules need to relax because this is a tough time for infants. Try to go with the flow as much as possible. When I first realized how sleep deprived I had become, I talked to my Dad about what was going on and all he said was that these sleepless night and crying jags would bond me and my son more then anything else could. And he was right. So, here's why else I've learned and please ignore if this is redundant.
I have a checklist and I go through it whenever my son wakes up. Diaper, temperature, belly, gas and teething. I see which one is bothering him and I attend to his needs. I never let him cry it out because I always want him to feel he can rely on me. And sometimes you just have to realize there's nothing you can do. Even if he's crying and screaming, he will appreciate the fact that you are there. My boyfriend and I worked out a schedule for nights. If it's before 3 am, I'm on duty and I attend to our baby. After 3 am is his shift. Taking turns will not work, trust me. Also, as other moms have said before, babies have a lot going on at this time in their lives. They're growing physically at the fastest rate of their entire lives, their bodies going through tsunamis of hormones, tons of teething ( we are at 9 teeth now) not to mention their newly expanded diets. If an adult was going through all that, don't you think you would hear a lot of complaining? The best way to get through this period is to remember you're helping your gorgeous brilliant baby get through a tough time and it's usually a phase that will end sooner or later. Sorry I don't have any easy solutions but I hope I've helped someone. Love to all you wonderful mothers for caring so much about your babies' sleep. And always talk to a receptive pediatrician if you think you have something to worry about. Finding the right pediatrician can make the biggest difference for your child and ultimately your family.

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Well, ladies, a common problem we all seem to share. My son has never been a good sleeper. He has GERD, a dairy allergy, teething and painful gas. He was colicky as a newborn and it took several months to find the right medicine and dosage. So, unfortunately, I can't relate to the mommies who have had no problems until now but I can share the wisdom of someone who hasn't slept through the night since my son was born. Please just breathe and relax. You're all excellent parents so please don't waste your time thinking and doubting. Your baby will get the sleep he or she needs. But the moms who have their babies on schedules need to relax because this is a tough time for infants. Try to go with the flow as much as possible. When I first realized how sleep deprived I had become, I talked to my Dad about what was going on and all he said was that these sleepless night and crying jags would bond me and my son more then anything else could. And he was right. So, here's why else I've learned and please ignore if this is redundant. I have a checklist and I go through it whenever my son wakes up. Diaper, temperature, belly, gas and teething. I see which one is bothering him and I attend to his needs. I never let him cry it out because I always want him to feel he can rely on me. And sometimes you just have to realize there's nothing you can do. Even if he's crying and screaming, he will appreciate the fact that you are there. My boyfriend and I worked out a schedule for nights. If it's before 3 am, I'm on duty and I attend to our baby. After 3 am is his shift. Taking turns will not work, trust me. Also, as other moms have said before, babies have a lot going on at this time in their lives. They're growing physically at the fastest rate of their entire lives, their bodies going through tsunamis of hormones, tons of teething ( we are at 9 teeth now) not to mention their newly expanded diets. If an adult was going through all that, don't you think you would hear a lot of complaining? The best way to get through this period is to remember you're helping your gorgeous brilliant baby get through a tough time and it's usually a phase that will end sooner or later. Sorry I don't have any easy solutions but I hope I've helped someone. Love to all you wonderful mothers for caring so much about your babies' sleep. And always talk to a receptive pediatrician if you think you have something to worry about. Finding the right pediatrician can make the biggest difference for your child and ultimately your family.

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Jan 06, 2010

My Baby Won't Sleep Either
by: Stephanie

My daughter is 9 months old and used to sleep through the night (well, 12 am to 4 am, but that's better than this!). That all ended about a month ago. Right now it is 3:40 am and she is sitting wide awake next to me. She fell asleep for about an hour from 8-9, but has been awake since. My husband is out of town, and has been for over a month, so it's just me to look after her. I have a full time job and I have to bring work home with me. I can't get work done when she is awake because she is getting into everything. This has been the most frustrating time with my beautiful daughter! I love her so much, and try not to get upset. I am trying so hard to stay positive, but it is difficult. Especially when it's almost 4 am and the work keeps piling up.

Jan 24, 2010

Oh Thank Goodness!
by: Leanne

I've been up today since 1:30am (its now 4:32pm) and I've been in tears most of the afternoon, wondering what I've done wrong with my 9 month old angel...have I held him too much, have I created a "rod for my own back" in rocking him to sleep each night...now that he won't sleep - wakes ever hour and needs to be rocked back to sleep and then won't go down in his cot. Then I find this site - and all of a sudden, things don't look so bad. Thank you everyone, the things you've said have helped immensly. I'm now still tired, but don't feel like a failure as a mother!!!

Jan 28, 2010

Neither will Mine!
by: Very Tired!

Well Well Well! Im not the only 1 suffering! My daughter slept through the night at about 3-5 months old! All way through, not a peep out of her! She hit 6 months and all downhill from there we had the teething palaver which interfered with everything! I gritted my teeth and hope this would pass! Well her teeth came through and i thought things would look up, then she got poorly and we cuddled her and nursed her but when she got better she wouldnt sleep in her cot at all! We rocked her to sleep and gently placed her in her cot! As soon as she relised she would be awake and letting the street know! Now she depended on me for her to go to sleep and we needed to break that! We let her cry it out and on the 3rd night she went in her cot to sleep no problem! But she cant and wont sleep through she'd wake up and id pat her back till she fell asleep! Then at 9 month she learnt how to stand up as brilliant as it sounds this now interupts sleeping! Instead of going back to sleep she now wakes herself fully by standing up and we are now fighting a losing battle every night! But it isnt once its at least 7-8 sometimes more times a night and now im feeling very empty and very tired!

Jan 28, 2010

Not easy, but possible
by: Danny The Manny

Hi everyone. I am a S.A.H.D. (Stay At Home Dad), although I prefer "Man of the House". I have a nine-month old and also watch his cousin of 9 1/2 months. They are very different in many respects, the elder still in 6 Mo. clothes and the younger, my Veblen, in 18-24 duds. It helps me to mentally document wake-up times and when during the day and night they get drowsy.
Jackson, my nephew, tends to go right to sleep when the time comes, but wants to be carried for awhile first. Veb prefers to have a bottle on his back while he drifts off.
Carrying and comfort feeding can be magic bullets, but if I do this consistently, it comes back to bite me - they won't sleep without it. In order to get them to sleep on their own, I wait until they are good and tired and then carry or cuddle just until I see those eyelids droop. then, it's off to bed. There is frequently crying and fussing for awhile, up to a half hour. Any more than that, I'll get 'em up - I know we're told not to, to just let 'em cry it out, but I am too soft-hearted for that, and I've got things to do. Mostly though, their napping behavior is pretty good.
My problem is Veb's nighttime waking. He sleeps from about 10:00 pm 'til 7 or 8:00 am, but wakes three to four times a night. I usually feed him two 4 oz. bottles during the night and sit or lay with him until he's asleep again, but we can't do this forever.
I do not enforce a rigorous schedule for Veb, his own pattern is pretty regular, but I will begin feeding him a nice rich cereal bottle about an hour before his usual bedtime. I will continue to lay with him, but no nighttime feeding, only the pacifier, when he wakes. I do not change his wet diaper until morning. He almost always wakes up happy and ready to play, which is nice, but in lieu of night feeding, I will have some formula, eggs and toast ready for him in the morning. Hope it works!

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Jan 28, 2010
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Hi everyone. I am a S.A.H.D. (Stay At Home Dad), although I prefer "Man of the House". I have a nine-month old and also watch his cousin of 9 1/2 months. They are very different in many respects, the elder still in 6 Mo. clothes and the younger, my Veblen, in 18-24 duds. It helps me to mentally document wake-up times and when during the day and night they get drowsy. Jackson, my nephew, tends to go right to sleep when the time comes, but wants to be carried for awhile first. Veb prefers to have a bottle on his back while he drifts off. Carrying and comfort feeding can be magic bullets, but if I do this consistently, it comes back to bite me - they won't sleep without it. In order to get them to sleep on their own, I wait until they are good and tired and then carry or cuddle just until I see those eyelids droop. then, it's off to bed. There is frequently crying and fussing for awhile, up to a half hour. Any more than that, I'll get 'em up - I know we're told not to, to just let 'em cry it out, but I am too soft-hearted for that, and I've got things to do. Mostly though, their napping behavior is pretty good. My problem is Veb's nighttime waking. He sleeps from about 10:00 pm 'til 7 or 8:00 am, but wakes three to four times a night. I usually feed him two 4 oz. bottles during the night and sit or lay with him until he's asleep again, but we can't do this forever. I do not enforce a rigorous schedule for Veb, his own pattern is pretty regular, but I will begin feeding him a nice rich cereal bottle about an hour before his usual bedtime. I will continue to lay with him, but no nighttime feeding, only the pacifier, when he wakes. I do not change his wet diaper until morning. He almost always wakes up happy and ready to play, which is nice, but in lieu of night feeding, I will have some formula, eggs and toast ready for him in the morning. Hope it works!

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Feb 20, 2010

my 9 month old daughter is having the same troubles
by: Anonymous

She used to sleep all night long and then I don't know what happened one day she woke up at mid-night and stayed awake until 5 in the morning. I have tried everything. I have kept her up all day in hopes that she will go to bed and stay there but she still wakes up at mid-night. I have tried bathing her and giving her a bottle and she still wakes up. I have tried keeping it cool and still wakes up. What can I do to get her to sleep all night long. We can't keep going like this. Its been about 3 weeks now that I have gotten decent sleep. She doesn't even want to take naps during the day either. She just seems restless. Someone please help!!!!!

Feb 21, 2010

Mother's are amazing
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 month old and she is a great sleeper sometimes and sometimes she hates it. I have tried regular scheduling, feeding options, baths, rocking, bouncing, letting her cry. Sometimes it is perfect! Sometimes it is not so perfect. As I read all the comments I just can't help but think, 'how amazing are moms'. Everyone of you sacrifice so much for your babies everyday. Then, we are so hard on ourselves if we do not have the perfect child, because we think it is our fault. I just don't think that is true. They are unique little people. Sometimes they want to sleep, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they want to eat everything, and the next day they are on a hunger strike. Just yesterday, my daughter refused to eat any formula, and ofcourse, I began to wonder what I had done wrong. Then, today, she ate almost twice what she normally does. I just think that most of the time they are trying to work out some area of development, or they just don't feel good, or they just realized they didn't like the dark. It is not because we are bad mothers. As their mom, we just need to try to understand and know our little person the best we can, and try to figure out a way to help them through. I don't think hard and fast rules will always work for every situation or baby, but having a close loving relationship with our baby is what they need. Whenever I notice myself trying to rigidly stick to a way that is not working, I realize (eventually) that it is unrealistic to do so. Whatever works for mommy and baby is good, and it often needs to be revised.

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Feb 21, 2010
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I have a 9 month old and she is a great sleeper sometimes and sometimes she hates it. I have tried regular scheduling, feeding options, baths, rocking, bouncing, letting her cry. Sometimes it is perfect! Sometimes it is not so perfect. As I read all the comments I just can't help but think, 'how amazing are moms'. Everyone of you sacrifice so much for your babies everyday. Then, we are so hard on ourselves if we do not have the perfect child, because we think it is our fault. I just don't think that is true. They are unique little people. Sometimes they want to sleep, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they want to eat everything, and the next day they are on a hunger strike. Just yesterday, my daughter refused to eat any formula, and ofcourse, I began to wonder what I had done wrong. Then, today, she ate almost twice what she normally does. I just think that most of the time they are trying to work out some area of development, or they just don't feel good, or they just realized they didn't like the dark. It is not because we are bad mothers. As their mom, we just need to try to understand and know our little person the best we can, and try to figure out a way to help them through. I don't think hard and fast rules will always work for every situation or baby, but having a close loving relationship with our baby is what they need. Whenever I notice myself trying to rigidly stick to a way that is not working, I realize (eventually) that it is unrealistic to do so. Whatever works for mommy and baby is good, and it often needs to be revised.

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Feb 24, 2010

feeling guilty for being frustrated
by: Rebecca

I was so glad to find this! I am a single mother to an almost 9 month old baby boy. He has never been a great sleeper & would wake to nurse at least 2-3 times per night (7pm-630am) for the past several months. Over the past week this has gotten much worse! He was awake SEVEN times in one night. He doesn't appear to have any illness (no fever, congestion, coughing, etc.). I have tried to wait to go into his room & see if he will stop crying & go back to sleep but he just gets more & more worked up. He stands up and screams until I come in and pick him up.

I have tried bringing him into my bed so that we could both sleep but he just tosses & turns, squirms, & plays with my face & hair.

I find myself becoming so frustrated & I don't know what else to do to calm him. Im so tired. I feel guilty for feeling frustrated because I know that he is not intentionally trying to cause me to lose sleep. I am sure that it has to do with all of the developmental milestones he has recently accomplished. I also think that the object permanence thing is complicating things. He seems to really pitch a fit when I leave the room. It breaks my heart & I wish I could just fix it!

Feb 26, 2010

THANK YOU ALL!
by: Becki

My daughter slept through the night (8pm-6.30am) from 3 weeks to 3.5 months, and since then it has been downhill... last night was the worst, she woke at 2am and didn't sleep again until 5.30am! I am back at work (husband is a SAHD) and I am so tired... my boobs are sore, she sucks and chews them angrily all night, and what works one night only serves to make her more angry the next!

The health visitor told us to not feed her at all in the night - well, I'd like her to come show me how that works! I feel pressure from others, like i am doing something wrong, and in fact if I stop stressing about it I cope so much better.

It helps so much to know we're not alone, thank you all!

Feb 27, 2010

My 9 month old wants to suck on me all night!!
by: Kay

Wow I'm not the only one then! My baby boy has always co-slept with us and I easily latch him on to my boob in the night! However recently he has been latching on every hour to half an hour during the night !! He will squirm and wriggle a bit and try and sit up, then I snuggle him down and put him back in the breast!! In the morning when I get up with my older son he will stretch out and go back to sleep on his own in the bed!

I wondered if I should try putting him in his own bed because maybe I was in his way or he couldn't get comfty next to me anymore! He is also teething so this might be the problem.

Mar 14, 2010

9 month old no sleep
by: Sarah

My beautiful baby boy will not sleep unless I am sitting up either in bed or a rocking chair nursing him. I was trying to wean him over the last month or so....he was taking a bottle most of the day and nursing at night...for the last few days he is refusing the bottle all together.

Once I rock him to sleep around 8pm I try to put him in crib if I am lucky he won't wake up and stay in the crib for at least an hour but usually he wakes up while I am laying him down and I have to try it over and over about 4 times before he will go down.

Then an hour later he is up...I have to nurse/rock him to sleep again and repeat. Finally around 11pm he will go down for 2 hours then up again at 1am...nurse to sleep....up again at 2, 3, 4, and then finally up for the day at 7am. I am starting to hallucinate I think from sleep deprivation. I know its not his fault but I am starting to not know how to function. When will this end?

Mar 18, 2010

Baby Boy wont sleep through the night
by: Sam

Hi, My 9 month old boy just refuses to sleep through the night, he has a 2 hour sleep during the day and wont want to go to bed until around about 8:30-9pm at night he's become extremely fussy with his foods, he doesn't want solid food, he just want formula or custard and the only way i can get him to eat cereal is with a whole tin of custard mixed in with his cereal....people tell me to try and cut down his bottles during the day, I've tried to replace them with food but he refuses to eat, then at night he's still waking up around 4-5 times for a bottle, he doesn't want the comfort its that he's always so hungry if i pick him up to bring him to bed he wakes up and thinks its play time...
is there anything that i can try to maybe get a solid 5 hours of sleep in at night because im going crazy and feel like its been years since i last had a good night's sleep...
thanx

Mar 26, 2010

Here's some things to try!
by: Anonymous

I had the same problems with my youngest daughter. I have tried everything you could imagine except letting her cry it out and medicating her. The doctors kept telling me that there was nothing I could do about it. Here is what I have found somewhat works for my little one. First I only let her have 3 hours worth of naps during the day but they are usually split up. Then after dinner I will let her go to sleep until about 10:30p.m. At which time I wake her up and keep her up till about 12 or 12:30 a.m. she tends to sleep rather well the rest of the night. But you have to wear them out during the day. Lots and lots of activities. Make sure that your baby is somewhat cool at night when you put him/her to bed. A warm bath might help as well. Babies tend to sleep better in dim light instead of the dark or blarring lights. And it wouldn't hurt to have some sort of sound in their room. Some babies can not sleep with no noise. Try playing some soft music. 30 mins before baby's bedtime don't do anything that would cause the baby to be alert (t.v., playing with them, etc...) I don't know if any of these will help but you can try it. And to the woman who was having a hard time with her baby eating solid foods. Mine also did that for awhile so I took her off of the pureed food and put her on finger foods and she started eating more and more solid food. She is now down to 3 to 4 bottles a day and is healthier than ever. In fact the doctor said she was the perfect weight. Hope some this will help everyone.

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I had the same problems with my youngest daughter. I have tried everything you could imagine except letting her cry it out and medicating her. The doctors kept telling me that there was nothing I could do about it. Here is what I have found somewhat works for my little one. First I only let her have 3 hours worth of naps during the day but they are usually split up. Then after dinner I will let her go to sleep until about 10:30p.m. At which time I wake her up and keep her up till about 12 or 12:30 a.m. she tends to sleep rather well the rest of the night. But you have to wear them out during the day. Lots and lots of activities. Make sure that your baby is somewhat cool at night when you put him/her to bed. A warm bath might help as well. Babies tend to sleep better in dim light instead of the dark or blarring lights. And it wouldn't hurt to have some sort of sound in their room. Some babies can not sleep with no noise. Try playing some soft music. 30 mins before baby's bedtime don't do anything that would cause the baby to be alert (t.v., playing with them, etc...) I don't know if any of these will help but you can try it. And to the woman who was having a hard time with her baby eating solid foods. Mine also did that for awhile so I took her off of the pureed food and put her on finger foods and she started eating more and more solid food. She is now down to 3 to 4 bottles a day and is healthier than ever. In fact the doctor said she was the perfect weight. Hope some this will help everyone.

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Mar 31, 2010

thx everyone
by: Saadia

just wen i started feeling like I'm gonna lose it i chance upon this page n its like I've written all these comments myself..my 9month old has always been a poor sleeper waking every half an hr at night n if I'm lucky every hour...ppl suggested all kinds of things but nothing works..i was told babies settle after 3months..then they said he would settle once his tummy was full wid solids..then it was the teething phase..no luck so far..im paranoid about having another baby...its exhausting and I'm all alone at home with my husband out of town several nights a month..its comforting to read im not the only mother in this situation..i guess every baby is different and i can only hope and pray mine settles down soon..will pray for all of u as well..gud luc and take care:)lotsa luv...saadia!

Apr 01, 2010

9 months of no sleep....When will it end???
by: Anna

When I read Sara's entry I almost fell off my chair. It was as if I was reading my little daughter's nighttime schedule. I, too, rock her to sleep each time, though lately she seems to go back to sleep (we co-sleep) if she starts running her fingers through my hair, this was cute at first but now it can get pretty painful when she pulls hard), and she wakes up on average about 5-6 times a night. Sometimes it is less, sometimes it is more. I rack my brain to figure out what I had done on the days preceding the better nights and when I try to do the same things again, there she goes to throw me for a loop. She is a great napper, will nap for about 1.5 hours twice a day (after I rock her to sleep) but nighttime is really horrible. I have read so many "sleep training" books, read countless support websites and after trying almost everything (except letting herself cry to sleep) she is still waking up often. I am much too scared to let her do the cry it out because she is rather a high strung baby and I know she would cry for hours on end until she got her way, and hearing her cry so much would break my heart. She has always been a spirited little thing, now especially she is so much more clingy and needy and will not leave my hip for the entire day. I thought once she started to walk, which she did a couple of weeks ago, it would tire her out and she would sleep better... I was wrong. This is all very frustrating but as I write this I am so thankful at the same time to have this awesome supportive group of mothers who are in the same boat as I am. I think we all have to remind ourselves that we are not doing anything wrong. All babies are different and some babies are just wired to test their parents a bit more. I will continue to give my daughter the love and comforting that she needs, but I need to know........when will this END????
My love to you all :)

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When I read Sara's entry I almost fell off my chair. It was as if I was reading my little daughter's nighttime schedule. I, too, rock her to sleep each time, though lately she seems to go back to sleep (we co-sleep) if she starts running her fingers through my hair, this was cute at first but now it can get pretty painful when she pulls hard), and she wakes up on average about 5-6 times a night. Sometimes it is less, sometimes it is more. I rack my brain to figure out what I had done on the days preceding the better nights and when I try to do the same things again, there she goes to throw me for a loop. She is a great napper, will nap for about 1.5 hours twice a day (after I rock her to sleep) but nighttime is really horrible. I have read so many "sleep training" books, read countless support websites and after trying almost everything (except letting herself cry to sleep) she is still waking up often. I am much too scared to let her do the cry it out because she is rather a high strung baby and I know she would cry for hours on end until she got her way, and hearing her cry so much would break my heart. She has always been a spirited little thing, now especially she is so much more clingy and needy and will not leave my hip for the entire day. I thought once she started to walk, which she did a couple of weeks ago, it would tire her out and she would sleep better... I was wrong. This is all very frustrating but as I write this I am so thankful at the same time to have this awesome supportive group of mothers who are in the same boat as I am. I think we all have to remind ourselves that we are not doing anything wrong. All babies are different and some babies are just wired to test their parents a bit more. I will continue to give my daughter the love and comforting that she needs, but I need to know........when will this END???? My love to you all :)

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Apr 03, 2010

hey
by: Saadia

hey anna
thts what i think about every single day..apparently they settle after like a year in most cases..gud luc n hugs to u all:)

Apr 10, 2010

Not so bad....
by: Kye

Well totally sleep deprived; so I thought! My little one is a little too fond of the milkbar... take away city she was in a great routine but alas she has forgotten how to put herself to sleep when she wakes during the night. It is every three hours I have tried to let her cry but its sooo hard at night I know she isn't hungry but give in because it so much easier ten minute feed back to sleep or let her cry on and off for 2 hours and give in anyway... She has taken to the dummy so I thought being a reflux child this would be good but maybe it's just a rod now.. Saying all this I have a 6 year old who had chronic reflux and woke on average 40 times a night.. but it still doesnot help there seems to be sooo many mummies who claim their little ones sleep through...

I only need one or two nights a week to cope and if she does sleep longer than 3 hours my other child wakes getting up for work is too harder some times...

Any ideas apart from the norm?????

Apr 12, 2010

Thank you for your stories
by: Angélique

I just want to thank all those wonderful mums who shared their experience and make me feel NORMAL ! I have my second baby. She is 9 months old, wakes up at night for reinsurance, go back to sleep in our bed, have a bottle...It's a little chaotic. I'm from Europe, and here everybody makes me feel bad about the way i do. It's like my baby has a problem and i am a bad mum and i spoil her! I had my first baby in the US and i had so much support from people that now i believe in happy healthy babies and not in let's make the baby easy for parents only ! Thank yall !

Apr 15, 2010

A book tip
by: Paula (Baby Help Line)

Hi everyone,

Since being in the same situation as you are was actually this website was founded in the first place, I wanted to add in another tip. If you haven't already, buy the book The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. The reason it suits so well particularly for babies at this age is that it offers a range of possible ways to improve your baby's sleep without using the cry it out method. And since 9 months is a sensitive age, cry it out is usually not a good option, but it can be really hard to think of other ways.

If you are curious on the author, I recently interviewed her. You can find the interview here.

Paula

Apr 20, 2010

the ups and downs of being a parent
by: Anonymous

my daughter was a great baby slept through the night from the age of 6 weeks and i was hoping my son would be the same, how wrong i was my son is now 9mths old and i can't remember the last time i slept all night in fact it was before he was born. My son will sleep till about 12- 1;30 then thats it every half an hour he wakes up i give him his dummy he may go back to sleep or otherwise i have to stand over his cot for sometimes up to 2-3hrs just gently rubbing his belly, shhhhing him but he must hold my hand stroking it until his totally asleep and it doesn't make a difference if he sleeps or not during the day but this is all the joys of being a parent and you have to take the rough with the smooth and all i can do is tell myself he will sleep through the night sooner or later.
just one other thing don't listen to anything your told if you feel your doing it right do it, coz there is no right way or wrong way only we know our kids.

Apr 27, 2010

Baby wants to play at night!
by: Bridgete

My baby will be nine months next week. Just when he got used to his crib, he now does not want to sleep. I take him my bed and sometimes he will sleep that way, but he seems so worked up like he got a burst of energy...he's kicking his little feet and trying to crawl around everywhere...he thinks it's play time! I have tried to let him cry 5-10 minutes at a time, but he gets SOOO mad and worked up, I end up having to calm him down. He just wails and I can't stand to let him cry like that. I am trying to understand why he has so much energy when I see all the signs of sleepy...rubbing the eyes, yawning, sleepy face. I do the baths and my mother says he is not napping as much during the day anymore, so I thought he would be more tired. Not sure if this is a phase..I hope it is! I'm exhausted!

Apr 28, 2010

Doctor's diagnosis for my child's innabilitly to sleep
by: Sheri

As of two weeks ago, my son had not slept through the night once since BIRTH! Lots of snotty nose problems, and what we thought may have been sleep apnea turned out to be extremely swollen tonsils and adnoids. Doctor put him on a steroid and my son slept for the first time all night long. My son needs his tonsils and adnoids out now. Maybe check with your pediatrician? Just some advice from an EXHAUSTED mother.

God bless
Sheri

May 02, 2010

I sympathise
by: Anonymous

Hi - my son has never slept through and I am sometimes almost hysterical with fatigue, as I work and am still breastfeeding him ( he is 9 months old). It has been enormously helpful to read these comments, as the superior non-working women in my mothers' group have babies who all sleep through. And how did they do it? Some weaned them early and almost all admit they let their babies scream and scream for hours, so they exhausted themselves. How cruel! I am NOT prepared to be cruel. I HAVEN'T done anything wrong by getting up every single time he needs me (2-6 times per night). It's a matter of luck and it is time that the REAL baby sleep habits were known, not this myth that you are alone and stupid for not getting your baby to sleep!

May 05, 2010

Routine: The Saving Grace
by: Happy to b a MOM

I have read through the comments and glad we all support each other. We play the same c.d at bed time and a different one for nap time and we have it on repeat. We read to our little one every night as well. When we have a real hard time settling him we have found that the baby einstein lullabye dvd is loved by our little one and he will squirm to be brought to bed when he has had enough of it or fall asleep. When he would fall asleep in our arms we would whisper that we were bringing him to his comfy cozy bed. He does wake in the middle of the night but not as often and we have found a consistent regular routine at bedtime and having naps around the same time during the day is very helpful. Remember they need us and can sense we are agitated, being upset and frustrated with baby will not help but being loving and caring will.

May 26, 2010

I feel your frustration
by: Anonymous

I have a two year old and the 9month old sleeping in the same room. At the drop of the hat, the youngest wakes up. A fan for white noise helps. The room is kept cool. An hour before bed, I give her a small bowl of oatmeal. Closer to bed time, she is nursed. I also let her get a nap around 4pm. I let her sleep and hour or less. I nurse her around 9pm or a little after. I usually does not wake until 6:30a.m.

Jun 01, 2010

9 Month Old Son Does Not Sleep
by: Jessica

I have just came across this website and although everything mentioned here I have tried except the cry it out method I am just glad to know that I am not the only person pulling my hair at midnight, 2,4,6 am. Since my son was born last September he has not slept for one 4 hour span day nor night. I have help thank goodness, a great mom, grandma and great grandma but still I'm so tired it's never ending. I feel bad for my son as well because I know he is not adequetly rested either. I know he is pain right now from three teeth coming in and battling his second set of double ear infections. Doctors are not taking me seriously as a first time mom. However all the people I have talked to did not experience anything like this. I am sorry that you all are tired like me. But I am glad that we all are doing a great job being their for our children. That is the most important thing. I figure the more love the better for him even if it is 6 or 7 times a night. Good luck and if you have any advice I'll be checking.

Jun 18, 2010

STEAK TO RULES
by: Follow your feelings and listen well

Dear mums, I want do share my experiences with you and hope it will work.

My son is 8 months now and until now he slept very good during the day and during the night. I believe I have helped him a bit because I was very strict with schedule since he was three months old. Now his sliping habits have changed. I think that is normal because he has to sleep less during the day and aporximatly 10 hours during the night. No matter at what time he is waked up, I always send him to the bad for mornign shifts at 10 and afternoon shifts at 4. Now he is sleeping only one our per shift, but I think it is ok.

Usually he had cryed 5 -10 minutes when I send to bed sometimes more, but as mother we have to listen activly. so in this way it is possibel to know why our baby is crying. Even thoug he was crying i never get him out of the crib. I was comunicatin with him, touching him and repating him sleep my honey sleep. BUT sometimes, you might wach him and seriolsy say. Pleas sleep now, I might be appset with you. Babies understand,even thoug we underestimate that.
Hope I have help you a bit.

Jun 19, 2010

hang in there
by: Anonymous

Hey Moms
Hang in there, I know how hard it is to not have any sleep, and still try to get through the day. Just remember they are only this age once and soon this too will be over. I have a 2 yr old who is just now starting to get on a regular sleeping pattern and an 8 mnth old who is doing the same thing....not sleeping. I finally came to the realization that its not gonna change. I just accept it...kinnda laugh about it, and put on a strong pot of coffee and make it through the day looking on the positive side. I excercise to improve my energy, and I try to go to sleep when my daughter goes to sleep. I feel that doing so improves my energy because Im not sooo stressed out about not sleeping. But to answer your questions here are some tips that I utilize to help my daughter sleep.

1. make sure that your baby is full before going to sleep. At this age finger foods should be given before bedtime. My daughters favorite is lasagna.

2. A warm bath before bedtime. Also there is a lavendar bath bubble wash that is very soothing and relaxing especially before bedtime.

3. Read some books before bedtime. This will start a bedtime routine, and has amazing benefits for babies. Some of which include: Bonding with mom/dad, they feel as though they are important enough for thier parents to take time for them before putting them to sleep. Literacy development. It is proven that those who read to thier babies at least 20 minutes a day, the babies deveop intelectually, and tend to do better in school as they grow. And they begin to make sound to imagae connections. READ READ READ

4. Give your baby a bottle and hold her and cradle her. Give lots and lots of attention while feeding. Tell her how much you love her. By now your little one will start to roll her eyes back in her head bc shes soo tired.

5. Put your baby in her crib and rub her back. babies like to have rythmic touch...maybe even sing as you do this. pretty soon your little one will be sleeping. Now to get them to stay asleep through the night...Im still working on that one! :) I always bring mine to bed with me after she wakes the first time. I learned that she will usually sleep through if I do this. Sometimes I will wait a couple of hours and put her back into her crib, and I learned that she will still sleep through most of the night bc I held her for a while. Remember babies morning time starts at like 5:30-6 in the morning. Too early for me...but I make that coffee and go with it.

Good luck to you, and remember that this will not last for long! :)

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Hey Moms Hang in there, I know how hard it is to not have any sleep, and still try to get through the day. Just remember they are only this age once and soon this too will be over. I have a 2 yr old who is just now starting to get on a regular sleeping pattern and an 8 mnth old who is doing the same thing....not sleeping. I finally came to the realization that its not gonna change. I just accept it...kinnda laugh about it, and put on a strong pot of coffee and make it through the day looking on the positive side. I excercise to improve my energy, and I try to go to sleep when my daughter goes to sleep. I feel that doing so improves my energy because Im not sooo stressed out about not sleeping. But to answer your questions here are some tips that I utilize to help my daughter sleep. 1. make sure that your baby is full before going to sleep. At this age finger foods should be given before bedtime. My daughters favorite is lasagna. 2. A warm bath before bedtime. Also there is a lavendar bath bubble wash that is very soothing and relaxing especially before bedtime. 3. Read some books before bedtime. This will start a bedtime routine, and has amazing benefits for babies. Some of which include: Bonding with mom/dad, they feel as though they are important enough for thier parents to take time for them before putting them to sleep. Literacy development. It is proven that those who read to thier babies at least 20 minutes a day, the babies deveop intelectually, and tend to do better in school as they grow. And they begin to make sound to imagae connections. READ READ READ 4. Give your baby a bottle and hold her and cradle her. Give lots and lots of attention while feeding. Tell her how much you love her. By now your little one will start to roll her eyes back in her head bc shes soo tired. 5. Put your baby in her crib and rub her back. babies like to have rythmic touch...maybe even sing as you do this. pretty soon your little one will be sleeping. Now to get them to stay asleep through the night...Im still working on that one! :) I always bring mine to bed with me after she wakes the first time. I learned that she will usually sleep through if I do this. Sometimes I will wait a couple of hours and put her back into her crib, and I learned that she will still sleep through most of the night bc I held her for a while. Remember babies morning time starts at like 5:30-6 in the morning. Too early for me...but I make that coffee and go with it. Good luck to you, and remember that this will not last for long! :)

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Jul 11, 2010

Same story different day
by: Anonymous

My guy is doing the same thing. I also tried the 'cry yourself to sleep' bit. I told myself he needs to learn how to sleep on his own! But that's not the approach that's going to work. I know this sounds wrong but spoil that baby! You can't give a baby too much love! The more you spoil your baby with love now, the more trust they'll have in you. Baby needs you close right now. I'm brought mine into bed with me and we sleep most of the night. He still gets up, but without the screaming and falls right back to sleep. Remember that every phase passes. And as long as your baby is having wet and solid dippers and is growing at a most normal rate, everything is fine. Every baby sleeps different hours and eats different amounts of food. And not everyday is going to be the same. Think about yourself. Do you eat the same amount everyday? Do you sleep the same amount everyday? And if so I'm sure you have off days. My philosophy is, whatever works! If baby's happy, it's ok. Good luck sleepless moms. I feel your pain. But remember it will pass eventually.

Jul 14, 2010

what is sleep?
by: Anonymous

I thought I was alone.My 9 month old baby girl slept by herself through the night untill she was nine months old, now she will not sleep unless I am holding her. I am tired and in need of SLEEP.I have tried everything and nothing has worked for us.I am at my wits end the only thing I have found helpfull is her beautiful smile she gives me.

Jul 23, 2010

So glad i found this site!!
by: Anonymous

A sense of relief has washed over me knowing that so many mums out there are also going through the same thing!! My little man was never the best sleeper but would always wake, feed and settle. Now he is 9 months old though he will wake for his bottle around 1am and then that is it..... he will not settle. I have now started rocking him to sleep and feel i have set myself up for a bad habit!! He will sleep so peacefully in my arms but as soon as i try to put him in his cot he becomes hysterical again. Arrrrggghhh!
Oh well, like one of the mums wrote in a previous post 'one day our babies will be all grown up and not need us anymore and we will be wishing for the day where we use to be their whole world' (or words to that effect!) Well said.

Jul 26, 2010

Soooooo tired...
by: Anonymous

Hey everyone,
I'm also really glad to have stumbled across this site. My 9 month old is also a difficult sleeper. She's never been much of a napper, and hates sleeping in her crib. As a single mother, I've been bad to take her in with me at night, because honestly, it's too hard fighting with her to go back to sleep especially when I know I'm gonna have to be up with her all day. Co-sleeping is good in theory (yes, she doesn't wake up crying and I don't have to get up 20 times a night), but I don't feel I'm getting adequate sleep; my daughter tosses and turns a lot, kicks and reaches out for me, so I'm awake most of the night. I've had A LOT of people (especially my parents) tell me all the wrong things I've done: I've always rocked her to sleep and she's always been breastfed and now bottle fed before I put her down. If she wakes up when I put her in her crib (as she usually does), I take her out and start rocking her again. Apparently, you're supposed to put the baby down sleepy but awake and make them sleep in their crib, etc etc, but as a first-time mother doing it completely on my own, I got into the habit of letting her sleep on me or with me out of shear exhaustion. And now I'm paying for it.

My daughter and I are together 24/7 and she seems to know instinctively that I'm all she's got. She has always been really clingy with me, but lately it's gotten out of control. If I leave the room for a second, she starts screaming and crying until I return and pick her up. She's almost walking now, so she pulls herself up in her crib or playpen and cries until she's taken up. Because she rarely naps, I have no "down time" and it's starting to wear me down. I've tried everything, including the "cry it out" method, and nothing has worked; it just seems to make her more upset. I'm not sure what else to do; I'm returning to work in a couple of months and at the moment my mother is planning on babysitting for me, but I don't know if she (my mother)is going to be able to handle how high maintenance my daughter is or if I'm going to be able to handle a full time job with a baby that doesn't sleep. It's really no longer that I want to get more sleep (which of course, I do), but I NEED her to get into some sort of routine where she naps at regular times and sleeps (at least) partially through the night, because I have to work to support us and I don't think any babysitter (including my mother) is going to put up with her, as sad as that sounds. So please, and advice or feedback would be really helpful! Thank-you for listening.

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Hey everyone, I'm also really glad to have stumbled across this site. My 9 month old is also a difficult sleeper. She's never been much of a napper, and hates sleeping in her crib. As a single mother, I've been bad to take her in with me at night, because honestly, it's too hard fighting with her to go back to sleep especially when I know I'm gonna have to be up with her all day. Co-sleeping is good in theory (yes, she doesn't wake up crying and I don't have to get up 20 times a night), but I don't feel I'm getting adequate sleep; my daughter tosses and turns a lot, kicks and reaches out for me, so I'm awake most of the night. I've had A LOT of people (especially my parents) tell me all the wrong things I've done: I've always rocked her to sleep and she's always been breastfed and now bottle fed before I put her down. If she wakes up when I put her in her crib (as she usually does), I take her out and start rocking her again. Apparently, you're supposed to put the baby down sleepy but awake and make them sleep in their crib, etc etc, but as a first-time mother doing it completely on my own, I got into the habit of letting her sleep on me or with me out of shear exhaustion. And now I'm paying for it. My daughter and I are together 24/7 and she seems to know instinctively that I'm all she's got. She has always been really clingy with me, but lately it's gotten out of control. If I leave the room for a second, she starts screaming and crying until I return and pick her up. She's almost walking now, so she pulls herself up in her crib or playpen and cries until she's taken up. Because she rarely naps, I have no "down time" and it's starting to wear me down. I've tried everything, including the "cry it out" method, and nothing has worked; it just seems to make her more upset. I'm not sure what else to do; I'm returning to work in a couple of months and at the moment my mother is planning on babysitting for me, but I don't know if she (my mother)is going to be able to handle how high maintenance my daughter is or if I'm going to be able to handle a full time job with a baby that doesn't sleep. It's really no longer that I want to get more sleep (which of course, I do), but I NEED her to get into some sort of routine where she naps at regular times and sleeps (at least) partially through the night, because I have to work to support us and I don't think any babysitter (including my mother) is going to put up with her, as sad as that sounds. So please, and advice or feedback would be really helpful! Thank-you for listening.

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Jul 28, 2010

That sound familiar!
by: Kirsten

Wow, it seems like 9 months old across the world like to party at night. My little boy, like all the others, would wake once for a feed until 8 months old and now he is up 6-7 time a night. But I just think... I don't know any 10 year olds that wake that often in the night, so it will pass one day, no matter what I do! So i'll just carrying co-sleeping and feeding on demand becuase that works for me right now.

To the post above. I have just returned to work and my boy is babysat by his Nana. I made an effort to spend a lot of time all togther so that they were both comfortable and fimiliar with each other. I then started leaving him with her for an hour, then half a day and then a full day before I started work. It has made the tranision to working mum much easier.

Aug 05, 2010

Same boat
by: Anonymous

My son is now 1 yr old and still does not sleep during the night!! The doc advised that we keep night as boring as possible. Norm when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he instantly starts playing. Doc also advised that if he doesnt need to be changed do not turn on light. Do not give a bottle. *she said after about 4-6mo they do not need a bottle during the night.* Do not talk. Babies start to think its daytime and are rewarded when they fuss at night time. I know its hard to do when we are tired. It all makes sense what the doc says tho. I'm trying hard to just let him fuss or play himself back to sleep.

Aug 05, 2010

5 months later....
by: Anonymous

Hello again all moms and dads,

I wrote here when my now 14 month old was 9 months about my horrific experience waking up almost every 2 hours, sometimes less sometimes more, becuase my daugher was unable to put herself back to sleep. Well, I stuck through it all and did not change much (we still co-sleep and I have not done any cry-it out at all) and when she turned about 11 or 12 months, I noticed that she started sleeping a bit better. This probably had to do with her being tired more from walking around all day. What I also did was (I used to exclusively rock her to sleep when she would wake up, no matter what time) rock her a bit and as she was still sort of zoning in and out of sleep, I laid her down on the bed and she would start running her fingers through my hair, which would INSTANTLY soothe her to sleep. So, I figured, if she loves running (sometimes YANKING) her fingers through my hair, I went out and bought a piece of hair extensions and each time she woke up at night, I would immediately ensure the extension was near her so she could stroke it...and it worked! She started to be increasingly better at falling asleep on her own and now I don't rock her to sleep at night and the night wakings have significantly decreased, unless she is teething or sick...which requires more TLC than usual.
So, my advice to you all struggling sleepers (including myself) is that you be as patient as possible, this phase will pass in time. Each baby is different and the phase may last different lengths for different children, but eventually I think all of our babies will sleep on their own.
My new challange is to get my daughter to fall asleep on her own without my help, and ideally in her own bed! She is pretty used to a large, open space (I have a Queen sized bed and its just the two of us) so she would not do well in a crib... any tips?

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Hello again all moms and dads, I wrote here when my now 14 month old was 9 months about my horrific experience waking up almost every 2 hours, sometimes less sometimes more, becuase my daugher was unable to put herself back to sleep. Well, I stuck through it all and did not change much (we still co-sleep and I have not done any cry-it out at all) and when she turned about 11 or 12 months, I noticed that she started sleeping a bit better. This probably had to do with her being tired more from walking around all day. What I also did was (I used to exclusively rock her to sleep when she would wake up, no matter what time) rock her a bit and as she was still sort of zoning in and out of sleep, I laid her down on the bed and she would start running her fingers through my hair, which would INSTANTLY soothe her to sleep. So, I figured, if she loves running (sometimes YANKING) her fingers through my hair, I went out and bought a piece of hair extensions and each time she woke up at night, I would immediately ensure the extension was near her so she could stroke it...and it worked! She started to be increasingly better at falling asleep on her own and now I don't rock her to sleep at night and the night wakings have significantly decreased, unless she is teething or sick...which requires more TLC than usual. So, my advice to you all struggling sleepers (including myself) is that you be as patient as possible, this phase will pass in time. Each baby is different and the phase may last different lengths for different children, but eventually I think all of our babies will sleep on their own. My new challange is to get my daughter to fall asleep on her own without my help, and ideally in her own bed! She is pretty used to a large, open space (I have a Queen sized bed and its just the two of us) so she would not do well in a crib... any tips?

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Aug 14, 2010

I'm in the same boat of all of you
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I'm so glad to find this website to know that I am not alone. My son is now 9 months old and has never slept through the night (wakes up 6-8 times)since birth and he is also a poor napper (30-45mins up until he is 6/7 months old. If he wakes after 1/2 hr, I walk him back to sleep then his nap can last up to 1 to 1 1/2 hr long). He has problem falling asleep on his own and needs to be held and pace around the room inorder to fall asleep. It wasn't that bad when he was smaller but now it is getting harder for me since he is getting bigger and heavier, it's hurts/breaks my back as well my husbands'. I have tried three times "cry it out" method but can't bear to hear him cries his heart out so I gave up on that. He co-sleep with me for the first six months until he started rolling around the bed that's when I started putting him in the crib which to my surprise he actually didn't mind the crib. He wouldn't sleep in it the first three months so I never tried again. On several occasions (probably about 5 times), I have tried not to walk him to sleep, he would be up for 4/5 hrs (1am to 4/5am)and very tire and still unable to fall asleep on his own. I know he tried very hard but he just don't know how put himself to sleep and he became very frustrated and tried so I end up walking him back to sleep. He felt asleep in less than 2 mins. Like I said, I can't do this any longer, it's breaking my back...HELP!!! Does anyone of you know anyone that has the same problem as me and did it ever get better and how do they do it? Any advice would be nice.
I am getting desperate. I can't go on like this forever.

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I'm so glad to find this website to know that I am not alone. My son is now 9 months old and has never slept through the night (wakes up 6-8 times)since birth and he is also a poor napper (30-45mins up until he is 6/7 months old. If he wakes after 1/2 hr, I walk him back to sleep then his nap can last up to 1 to 1 1/2 hr long). He has problem falling asleep on his own and needs to be held and pace around the room inorder to fall asleep. It wasn't that bad when he was smaller but now it is getting harder for me since he is getting bigger and heavier, it's hurts/breaks my back as well my husbands'. I have tried three times "cry it out" method but can't bear to hear him cries his heart out so I gave up on that. He co-sleep with me for the first six months until he started rolling around the bed that's when I started putting him in the crib which to my surprise he actually didn't mind the crib. He wouldn't sleep in it the first three months so I never tried again. On several occasions (probably about 5 times), I have tried not to walk him to sleep, he would be up for 4/5 hrs (1am to 4/5am)and very tire and still unable to fall asleep on his own. I know he tried very hard but he just don't know how put himself to sleep and he became very frustrated and tried so I end up walking him back to sleep. He felt asleep in less than 2 mins. Like I said, I can't do this any longer, it's breaking my back...HELP!!! Does anyone of you know anyone that has the same problem as me and did it ever get better and how do they do it? Any advice would be nice. I am getting desperate. I can't go on like this forever.

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Aug 14, 2010

Wow
by: Sleep deprived

Absolutely everything I have read is happening to me. Creepy. I'm so tired, haven't had more that 4 hrs of sleep at once in 9 months :)Guess we all have normal babies.

Aug 19, 2010

9 month old son won't sleep through the nite either!
by: Anonymous

I loved reading everyone's comments about their experiences with their 9 month olds. It made me feel not so alone and less frustrated with my baby and me.
From day one, Caleb slept in his crib in our room not 3 feet away from my side of the bed. It made it easier to get up to feed him when he woke throughout the nites. He started sleeping though the nites at 2 months from 10 something pm to 7 something am...that lasted till he hit 4 months. Then he started waking up once or twice a nite to breastfeed, which wasn't too bad.
My husband got out of the Navy when Caleb was 5 months and from then on we'd been moving around a bit. We moved in with my parents for a bit while Hubby looked for a job. Then we did a family road trip to visit everyone on his side of the family and finally (he is now working for a great company) we are living at his grandparents until we buy a house. This whole time, Caleb's been sleeping in the same room as us, but he's been waking up every hour or two and won't go back to sleep unless I nurse him. It's soo hard and I'm soo tired. On top of him waking up as much as a newborn, he hates waking up in his crib! He will wake up, sit up, yell for a bit, crawl over to the side, stand up and yell even more until I get up and get him. If I don't, he'll start to scream and cry.
Caleb refuses to take his naps in his crib. He'll nurse to sleep on the Boppi and I'll cuddle him as I walk to his crib. As soon as his back touches his mattress though, he'll arch his back and without opening his eyes, he'll start to yell.
I am at my wits end! We actually tried the CIO method but he can outcry me! We've tried feeding him more during the day but he only eats so much. We've tried putting him in the crib drowsy but then he starts crying as soon as he feels us lowering him in. I don't know what to do. Anyone who has any advice...please, let me know.

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I loved reading everyone's comments about their experiences with their 9 month olds. It made me feel not so alone and less frustrated with my baby and me. From day one, Caleb slept in his crib in our room not 3 feet away from my side of the bed. It made it easier to get up to feed him when he woke throughout the nites. He started sleeping though the nites at 2 months from 10 something pm to 7 something am...that lasted till he hit 4 months. Then he started waking up once or twice a nite to breastfeed, which wasn't too bad. My husband got out of the Navy when Caleb was 5 months and from then on we'd been moving around a bit. We moved in with my parents for a bit while Hubby looked for a job. Then we did a family road trip to visit everyone on his side of the family and finally (he is now working for a great company) we are living at his grandparents until we buy a house. This whole time, Caleb's been sleeping in the same room as us, but he's been waking up every hour or two and won't go back to sleep unless I nurse him. It's soo hard and I'm soo tired. On top of him waking up as much as a newborn, he hates waking up in his crib! He will wake up, sit up, yell for a bit, crawl over to the side, stand up and yell even more until I get up and get him. If I don't, he'll start to scream and cry. Caleb refuses to take his naps in his crib. He'll nurse to sleep on the Boppi and I'll cuddle him as I walk to his crib. As soon as his back touches his mattress though, he'll arch his back and without opening his eyes, he'll start to yell. I am at my wits end! We actually tried the CIO method but he can outcry me! We've tried feeding him more during the day but he only eats so much. We've tried putting him in the crib drowsy but then he starts crying as soon as he feels us lowering him in. I don't know what to do. Anyone who has any advice...please, let me know.

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