11 Month Old Baby Cries Most Of The Day
I have a beautiful healthy 11 month oldbaby boy, but he is so cranky all the time but mostly only in the presence of myself and my husband.
He is so attached and won't let me do anything. He wants to be picked up and carried constantly and unless we are in the room, screams at the top of his lungs.
I get so upset and tired by it. I want him to be happy and independent. Sometimes I stay with him but don't pick him up but he just cries and cries until I can't bare it and end up picking him up. Tears come rolling down his face.
His grandparents say he is as good as gold when they look after him, so I know that nothing is wrong with him. I don't know how to break the habit of picking him up.
My neighbors must think I have a nightmare child and it's impossible to leave him to cry when he is in that state. Please advise. He is my first child. He's not crawling either and I think he is frustrated by that as he wants to move but can't despite me putting him on his tummy from a very young age every day.
I am so worried about him. I need help!!!
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What To Do With Clingy, Crying Baby
Firstly stop worrying! Your stress transmits to your little boy and he will react by panicking when you go out of the room. And too bad about your neighbors, it is not their business. You must not worry about what others think (including parents!) Your job is to have fun with your baby and enjoy him, and that is the best thing for his development.
Some babies are more clingy than others, and it just means they need more cuddles and reassurance. If you can manage a backpack or sling, he would probably love traveling around with you as you chat about what you are doing.
I am not a believer in leaving babies to cry for long. It doesn't hurt a baby to cry a bit with frustration, but it does sound like your little fellow is stressing out too much. If he has to get distressed to get picked up then it is being reinforced.
It is much better that you pick him up lots at other times too, and get down on the floor with him to play so he build confidence.
Make it a game rather than a struggle between you. If you are going to him feeling resentful and frustrated then he is picking up on that and feeling insecure.
He will crawl eventually! But at this stage, being left on his own on his tummy is scary and frustrating, and although a certain amount of frustration causes babies to reach that bit further and pull themselves up, he will only do that when he feels confident.
And if he has got fearful you are going to go away, or are out of reach he will just stress out. You can encourage him by putting toys just out of reach but you stay with him, smiling and encouraging him. Play rolly-polly games on the floor with him, and peek-a-boo games so he knows you are coming back.
Don't worry, he is just at the age where baby's are often clingy and hate Mom disappearing. He will grow out of it, just enjoy him and have lots of interaction with him. Babies gain independence much quicker by having lots of attention and play than they do being left on their own to try to achieve control. Learn more about 11 month old babies and how play with them here.
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